I have been in and out of counseling since i was 14. Am now 40. I have the most AMAZING therapist now. In my personal opinion if your feeling that way now your probably right. I would think after 3 sessions something would click by now. I have had counselors where i knew right away that i was not gaining anything out of it. The counselor i had before this one was younger than me and all she did was let me talk and after about 6 months i decided it was not working out. The one i have now is one that i was seeing in 2015 and saw her for a year and she was just the best but unfortunately she was leaving and i had been discharged from the program. I have been back with her since July and am sooo happy. Good luck and i hope you find the one who works best for you.

I can relate to your experience of being in and out of counseling offices from a young age. There have been good ones, and others that I couldn’t stand. The really good ones, I think, are far and few between. Two of the best ones I’ve seen in the last few years have been certified LPC’s. In my opinion, a great therapist is interactive with the patient, and doesn’t just sit there and listen. I also think they should be able to naturally offer help with recognizing distorted thought patterns and other common triggers for depression. My current therapist is very encouraging and suggests different things I can do to analyze my thoughts and feelings. I hope this helps.

In he past i’ve always given hem 5 sessions.... that’s always been enough for me to decide it’s not right. don’t wanna waste too much time you know?? good luck though, here to support while you figure it out

Thank you for all your comments. I appreciate the responses.! :)

I have found that how much time therapy takes depends on me more than the therapist. Depression therapy can succeed in an instant, or over a LOT of time, or never. Depression (like everything else) is a 'state of mind'. That is not to say one cannot be helped reaching that state of mind, but ultimately, the resolution is reaching that state of mind .... one way or another.

I’m not in counseling but I think I should be. Personally I would give probably 5-6 visits and evaluate the situation. If I felt comfortable with the person as long as I’m getting something back I would give it a few more visits. Sure qualifications mean a lot and return on my investment is everything but if you feel like your going nowhere then maybe it’s time to look for someone else. I wouldn’t cut ties with the current counselor until I had another lined up

I just want to let you know that you are making a very wonderful choice to see a counselor. I've had a few different ones; some were wonderful, some were not. I don't appreciate when counselors speak to me in a rude tone regarding something I just said, nor do I like it when they judge me. They are there to listen and help you process things, but judgment is not appropriate. It can take some time to open up to someone, so maybe just keep trusting your judgement. I also, as a woman, have preferred women counselors. I've also had counselors break my trust so if that's happening, try someone else! But thank you for sharing this on here. We are here for you!