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bluemoon23 01/13/2011

My abusive ex husband is getting remarried to my former best friend. I am glad to be rid of him but there's one problem..she still finds it necessary to harass me through facebook. She writes these horrible things for everyone to see. we went to the same school so we have a lot of mutual friends. she's even making fun of how she had me beat up. i wish i could be the type of girl to just give it right back but i'm not. i'm in such a depressive state that i just can't take this abuse anymore. i had a protective order on her before, but of course a protective order won't do anything against facebook. i reported it to facebook for inappropriate wall post but that will only fuel the fire i'm sure. i moved 2 hours away to get away from this and yet she won't stop. i'm starting to relapse into a deep depression and feeling worthless certainly does not help.

WanderingVet 01/14/2011

"i had a protective order on her before, but of course a protective order won't do anything against facebook."

Are you sure???

You might also do a GOOGLE search on:

facebook adult bullying policy

I go about 214,000 results.

WanderingVet 01/14/2011

got .... not .... go

bluemoon23 01/14/2011

her protective order expired last october and there's no way they'd give me another one just for her writing things about me on facebook. the court will tell me i will need more than just what she writes on facebook

WanderingVet 01/14/2011

I see. Then I would deactivate my facebook account (which I did months ago).

heretic 01/14/2011

I think it's the people running facebook that would do something about it - not the courts. Besides, it IS only facebook and I'm sure anybody who reads trashtalk recognizes it for what it is. I say ignore it, or report it to facebook if it is really interfering with your life.

bluemoon23 01/14/2011

i did end up reporting it so we'll see what happens. i'm just tired of her antics. i got divorced over 2 years ago yet this abuse hasn't stopped. i feel like i can't heal because it doesn't stop.

Summerwind81 01/14/2011

You can't control what she says, or what she does.

You can control how you react to it. You can take some proactive steps, deleting your Facebook would be a great first step.

Distance yourself from their "group." If this means losing close friends, take that on a person-by-person basis. But you can't stay very close to such a toxic situation, it's just not healthy for you.

Wishing you peace, and I hope this dies down very soon. Hugs.

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