Wow, I am sorry to hear that you are in this situation.

Do you see yourself being able to get better and not call in sick so often? Does your boss seem like a person who would work with you on that?

As for quitting versus being fired, that is a hard one. A third option is to be laid off due to slow business, but companies may have to pay the government a fee if they do that. Quitting looks better on your resume than being fired, but being fired may give you better benefits than if you quit.

My guess is that your boss would rather let you quit than to fire you because it is easier for him/her and less paperwork if you quit. If they fire you then you can always challenge it. If their paperwork is in order then all it would cost them is time. If their paperwork is not in order then they might lose in arbitration and have to give you your job back and/or give you a settlement.

You might want to do some research on that quit/fired thing.

Here is an article I found, it may or may not help.

http://www.nolo.com/legal-encyclopedia/unemployment-benefits-when-quit-32450.html

From what it says, it looks like getting fired/quit due to health reasons may entitle you to unemployment benefits. Can you get a doctor to justify your illness as a reason for not going to work?

Sorry, I'm not a lawyer, so this is about as much as I can think to tell you.

Gentle hugs

Can't you go to your boss and explain why you have missed some time from work and to allow you to find out why you are feeling as you are? Do they also have long term disability? Maybe you are eligible for that instead of out right quitting. If you quit, it doesn't look good on your next Resume, and can affect any compensation. I am hoping you are able to work this out with your boss without losing your job. Hugs GB

Very sorry you have been so ill. I don't know of any employers who will pay if the employee doesn't or cannot work. I agree, you are likely to lose this job.

Behet's syndrome can be very debilitating .. leading me to inquire about some kind of 'disability' benefit. I imagine you have already looked into it though.

"Social Security pays disability benefits to you and certain members of your family if you have worked long enough and have a medical condition that has prevented you from working or is expected to prevent you from working for at least 12 months or end in death."

You are young and probably have a small work history ... so I don't know if it will be much help to you, .. but you can find out:

http://www.ssa.gov/disabilityssi/

I am terribly sorry I cannot offer more suggestions. Perhaps someone else will. I wish you the very best.

She knows I have Behcet's Syndrome and other health issues. My lost days have gotten out of hand I know it. I feel like I've ruined my life from being sick and withdrawn.

I was getting better but now I have no gusto to move forward. I feel like shit.

Do you have a personnel office. Call them today, ask for a FMLA form. You can have it intermittent. They can't fire you, lower your pay, or even fuss at you. You get 12 weeks a year. I used it the last years I worked. I was in your place prior to getting on FLMA (Federal Medical Leave Act).

If you don't have a personnel office ask your boss's supervisor or her if you have to with no other choices. I had an old bitch for a boss, she tried to take my promotion, lower my pay, bitch at me, I would just go tell on her. I could have called the federal office and got her ass fired but I am not that vindictive. Good luck to you.

I agree with others, you should find out if you have options for FMLA and/or short, or long term disability. I've been in your shoes, so you're certainly not alone. In 2013, I was diagnosed with a severe neurological disorder that mimics a brain tumor, much like your illness it's rare, there's no cure and treatments are not always effective. I took all my options, the maximum FMLA leave, I used all my sick, vacation and borrowed leave, but unfortunately I couldn't get my illness into remission...I couldn't feel better, I forgot what it felt like to not be sick, or in pain. I ended up being terminated, but it worked out for the best...especially considering my employer was abusing me in an attempt to get me to quit. I was able to acquire disability due to my termination and the time off has allowed me to gain my health back. It took over a year, but I got my medical illness under control. I'm still on disability today unfortunately, but I developed severe PTSD from the abuse from my employer, it's a work in progress, but things are looking up. I just want to let you know things can get better, it's rough right now and there seems like no end, but life goes on and we all carry the strength to survive the worst. Sending well wishes and positive vibes your way.