I am so sorry you are going through this. My two sisters got pregnant unexpectedly when they were younger, and things were rocky for a bit but they were able to work things out with their mates. I encourage you to continue getting counseling as you have been doing and also lean on your family for support. No matter what happens, take good care of yourself and the baby.

notsoperfect89,

I am so sorry that your Boyfriend cheated on you. I don't know why people do the things that they do but I think that it is so important to be sure to focus on you and your baby and to take care of yourself.

I know easier said than done. Are you in counseling? If not have you thought about going to counseling? I am glad that you have the support of your Family. I am so sorry that you feel so alone. Maybe you can move back home and live with your Family for the time being and they can help you with the baby. Do you work? Do you plan on seeking child support from your Boyfriend? I would definitely talk to an Attorney and get the facts. I know that you are hurt and angry but right now the most important thing is your baby and you taking care of yourself so your baby will be okay.

Welcome to the group. (((HUGS)))

Do what you feel rights. I am certainly no professional. But if I were you, I would never enter a relationship with this guy again. I would certainly let him see his son if he wanted, but I would move on. I wouldn't want the 'on again, off again" relationship you had for 8 years to be something my child has to go thru now as well. I believe once a cheater, always a cheater. I have been cheated on, and this man went on to cheat again, and again. I know you feel alone, but you really aren't. You have a precious baby boy inside you- who is just as eager to be held by you, as I'm sure you are to hold him.

HUGS

I know this is a very painful thing you are going through .....but you need to put your self in a norther chair now ..........look at the bigger picture ...........as hard as that may be .....this new baby coming.is the one who is important ...here ....I don't say this lightly ........this little boy needs you ......my x husband fooled around on me when I was pregnant for our second child ......than he left ....I found out it had been going for a while .....than he tried to come back .....after 2 wreaks .....so I let him come back .......because I wanted my child to have his father .......he stayed for three wreaks and stayed out over the weekend so I told him if he didn't come home that night not to come back at all .....so he didn't come back .....than he started phoning me wanting to come back that it was at all times of the night than he told me he was going to kill his self if I didn't let him com home .........this went on for many months .....I got back together with someone I went out with before him and was happier ....except felt guilty about the x and worried .....my h now back than he told me to tell him to stop calling and if he said he was going to kill his self tell him to do it ....and I did ....my h said he loved his self to much to hurt his self I should of known that .....when he left I had to decide what kind of life was my son going to have with a father that was going to keep taking off fooling around when he felt like it and leave us alone with no money ..no car ...alone ....and my having to explain that one and why was mommy crying ........................................................................that realy made me think when I could see a little of what it would be for my son because my x wouldn't just be leavens me to have his fun but his sons as well ..................you have had an off and on relationship for 8 years he has had long enough time to change .....and it has been long enough for you to know he won't change ...even if you do get back together ...can you ever relay trust him again ...and if this is what has been going on in your relationship for these 8 years and you get back together do you really want to go throughout this again ....think about the kind of life you want for your children ....think of how you want your son to grow up with what attributes .with what beliefs ..is fooling around on mom ok ....good enough for dad .......do you want him to grow up to take after his father ...........I asked my self all these questions ......and I had to ask one more do I want his mother to have influence on my son ......she was munplating .and stolid and encouraged her son to steal ........and the answer to all those questions was .......no .......everyone's situation is different ..I can only tell you about mine ...and that you have to ask the hard questions ......up until a child is two they can adjust if a parent leaves but .....at 3. when my husband left my son wast traumatized......his father saw him twice and than disapered from his life and the husband I have now raised my son with me .....my son finaley met his father when he turned 18 .....and over the period of a year learned who his father and his mother is and wanted nothing more to do with them .....I never changed my adress or phone number ...and never would of stopped his relatives from visiting ....but we are lucky that my xs mother has had no influence on my son ........or he could of very Easley been a different person ....I made the right deshion ..................I am sorry this has been so long but I dident know how to explain to you what I thought you needed to think about ....with out it sounding like I dident know what I was talking about ....unless shared some of what I went through .....and to let you know you are not alone .....I will keep you and your little boy in my prayers ..........I am very proud of you for going for help .....it isn't easy.......but it shows ..me you will be a great mom .....god bless ....

Yeah .. this guy is a major disappointment alright. Better to find out sooner than later. If you continue with him, I predict it will get MUCH worse.

Hope you have a good lawyer ... you will need the child support, .. I would imagine.