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Pissed Pissed Pissed!!!!!!!

SBoom
SBoom
So.. my one guy friend.. we had gotten a lot closer throughout this school year. I really enjoy hanging out with him, and I thought that we were really good friends. We ended up sleeping together a couple of times, and it was cool.. totally not awkward in the following few weeks after we did. But then midterms and papers and all that crap hit and we didn't have any time alone together for a while.. so needless to say we haven't slept together again, just those couple of times. Well it didn't seem awkward or bad for a while yet cuz we were just busy and stuff. But the last few weeks I've gotten such an uncomfortable vibe from him when I do see him around, and he hasn't called me or texted me in weeks, and he used to call or text me every day both before and for the few weeks after we had slept together. He's been virtually ignoring me when we hang out with friends, and not answering simple conversational questions. Yesterday for instance I casually asked a couple of times when me and another friend were over at his place if he was going out to this bar that night. He completely ignored the question! Turned out he was going anyways.. but when him and his buddy showed up he pretty much acknowledged everyone but me. It really fucking hurt. And then, virtually out of no where my roommate (who is also friends with him) asked me if I was over him yet.. and I was like "uh.. what? I didn't know there was something to be over.. but.. uh.. am I supposed to be??" and she was like "yeah.. you should be.." I was like ok what the fuck is that supposed to mean?? She told me that she thinks that he is seeming someone... I don't totally trust her though, but still... that would certainly explain why he is suddenly ignoring me when he wasn't before..

But I am fucking PISSED that he was just ignore me like that... we were good friends.. we weren't dating... why the hell wouldn't he just TELL me he was seeing someone? what the hell?! He's just throwing a fucking friend away for no reason.. and giving me no explanation... I hate shit like that.. I swear I cannot remember being this pissed in a long long time... i hate him right now!
deleted_user
deleted_user
hmi seeing someone would explain why he has been distant. Yeah it's stupid, given the nature of your relationship, that he would not just tell you waht's going on, but then again, men can be dense, and they can also be cowardly. He was too afraid or wussy to just be honest.

best thing to do is blow it off, do not freak out or berate him or anything. Just quietly move on with your own life.

confronting him with your anger won't help a thing.

males are different species, not nearly as enlightened as us girls! LOL. ((((((bighugs)))))))
SBoom
SBoom
I wish I could just blow it off.. but I don't want to lose a friend over something stupid. It bothers me. A lot. I care about this guy, and thought he cared about me. I have to confront him about it.. or else it's just going to eat away at me.....
deleted_user
deleted_user
I would try talking to him and tell him that you miss him as a friend and that you never expected things to be anything more than what it was. But don't expect things to be like they were before...I suspect that he probably told his new girlfriend about you two and she probably has a problem with you guys being friends.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Ok ,well, if you must, then do try and do it in a non-threatening way, you are more likely to get the truth that way. Good luck!
missoctober
missoctober
If he's seeing someone, he might be avoiding you because he's feeling guilty. If you want to keep him as a friend, just talk to him honestly. Once he realizes that you're really ready to continue the friendship without worrying about what happened, he'll probably be relieved and act more like himself.
SBoom
SBoom
i hope you're right missoctober.......... :S

i hate losing friends
deleted_user
deleted_user
Guys do these sort of things. I would try my best to blow it off. I know he meant alot to you. But do you really want a friend that seems to not care about you?
deleted_user
deleted_user
Why not ask him to meet you for coffee at a neutral location and a chat?

It's better to try to talk things out and clear the air.
SBoom
SBoom
prob is it is kind of hard to get someone alone to talk when they're avoiding you like the effing plague... lol
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