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well it happened. The crisis that I was expecting happened on Tuesday when Mom could no longer get out of bed anymore and we had to scramble to find placement. Almost 75 phone calls later and a temporary stay at Hospice for pain management...she is in a personal care facility. She did not fight it....
She has told me over the years that she would never agree...that we just want to get rid of her. She has said she thinks she will die once there.She has said she wants to die at home.
I was in her house today, alone, and cried. She will never be there again. I was born there. SHE was born there. My father died there.
I have thought for years that placement would be best. So why do I feel like I let her down?
She has told me over the years that she would never agree...that we just want to get rid of her. She has said she thinks she will die once there.She has said she wants to die at home.
I was in her house today, alone, and cried. She will never be there again. I was born there. SHE was born there. My father died there.
I have thought for years that placement would be best. So why do I feel like I let her down?
You did what was best for her.
SHE was the one who created a toxic environment that made many of her final wishes impossible to implement.
HUGE HUGS!
Your mother needs a LOT more care now that she is unable to get out of bed by herself. So one question comes to mind: are you able to get her in and out of bed by yourself? Are you able to do this on demand? The reality is that while you may be able to do this now, her care is going to get more demanding as time passes. It is entirely possible that the day is coming where she will need 2 people to get her in and out of bed.
How about all those daily assessments that are done in an assisted living facility? The things that the staff there is trained to look for that we non-professionals are not?
I think you did what was best for her long term care needs. It is also good for you. The only negative is that it is not what she wants. But then she is asking you to do things you are not trained to do. She is also asking you to do things that interfere with your life.
You are OK!
GENTLE HUGS 4 U AND YOUR MOM.......................
GBU
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Both or you are better off not just you!
Cool Beans! Hip Hip hooray!