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AnnaMarie34 09/17/2013

One of my friends called and invited two of my friends to her house. They assumed I was invited I wasn't. My friends decided I am going to go.
I didn't want to go. I wasn't invited and the friend they were going to visit
isn't a very nice person. One of my friends told me she was sorry she didn't call and tell me about going to the friends house. I think she is making a big deal out of it. I don't care that I wasn't invited and I didn't go.The same friends have decided that we need to go out to lunch with the mean friend. I am tired of them making plans without asking is I want to
go with them. I really like them but think they should ask if I want to go.
Not tell me .They don't listen when i try to tell them.

BE0312 09/17/2013

Hi Anna Marie... I am on board with you about hating when people TELL you what you are going to do... drives me up a wall. If they wont listen, maybe just kindly say that you have other plans but maybe you can plan something later and to just check in with you before hand so that they know whether or not you are able/want to go. I hope they get the point real soon.

RStraying 09/18/2013

Turn your phone off, lock your doors, and do whatever the hell you want. They can lead us to the koolade but they can't make us drink it.

deleted_user 09/18/2013

At least you have friends who want to spend time with you.

koolman 09/18/2013

Yeah, at least be grateful that you HAVE friends who want to spend time with you, even if it is not on your terms!

Politely thank them, then say you'd rather stay home.

Friend19 09/18/2013

Why is this other friend mean? Part of me agrees with everyone who is saying at least you have friends who want to spend time with you...But then other part questions if maybe these friends are just trying to start some kind of fight between you and this "mean" one.

I guess I would have to agree with RStraying in the end- just don't drink the koolade.

HUGS

kylestyle45 09/18/2013

I agree that it's good you have friends who want to hangout with you but they should at least ask you if you wanna go with and if your comfortable going. If the one friend is that mean to you that does no good for you and will make you more depressed if she says stuff that will bring you down. I guess just politely turn them down next time if your not comfortable going and explain to them that you aren't comfortable being around the mean friend. I hope things get better for you soon.

muskrattiger 09/19/2013

Your frends are crossing a line ......they schould be asking you and respecting your wishes .....that's what frends do .....I don't know how you could convince then to ask you other than to tell them that you were not hanging with them untill they learned to respect you and ask you if you want to go some ware and than accept your answer.......I realy hope your frends come around .......I will pray on this ......god bless

Lala37 09/19/2013

If they don't listen when you try to tell them, then they are showing you absolutely no respect. In my honest opinion, true friends aren't like this. If it were me, I would really evaluate your friendship with them. I hope you're able to resolve this.

AnnaMarie34 09/20/2013

Thanks everyone for your advice. I work with these people so I go with them on every so often. I went with them this morning. It was better than I thought it would . I took my own car when the mean one started being rude. I left. I don't think they get how I feel.

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