Hello Texasmade...I wish that were true for all people but I do know some shallow people who love others for whom they are, not how they make them feel...I think this world would be a better place if love was based on how people make others feel...

As for me, I have felt unloved and uncared for many times throughout my life. So I try to overcompensate and hate it when other people feel lonely, unloved, uncared about, so on and so forth. I want the other people in my life to know how much I love them and how much I admire or respect them, etc. I hope I do a good job of that but I am human, so I probably don't always. I say for the times I don't, it is my own personal demons that get in the way of showing this. I am totally a work in progress..Take care of yourself, Beth

I'm not a people person in real life but online I love meeting ppl. I have few close friends and only one person in my family who understands me. Hate to say it but sometimes I like animals more than people.

"People love others not for who they are but for how they make them feel!"

Exactly, so what that tells me is that people are really just looking out for themselves. I love for who someone is. I don't think that is shallow at all. We must have a different definition.

What I meant by shallow is someone who just loves a person because they are famous or have a lot of money, etc. Everyone loves differently..

oh right, i figured it was different.

I absolutely believe this to be true. I don't think it is selfish or self centered at all.

We naturally gravitate towards those that help us to feel better about ourselves.

I believe (re: Beth's post) that some people may gravitate to people for shallow reasons, but if the person is shallow, they won't end up loving that person, because the shallow person isn't emotionally invested in anyone other then themselves.

Let's see...I hope I help people to feel secure and good about themselves, and I hope that I convey warmth and trust and peace.

I do my best to be there for the people in my life, although I fall short many times.

((((((((((((PEACE AND LOVE))))))))))

Ok to me, "who you are" is not your career, financial abilities, or social standing. To me, "who you are" means what is inside of you. I would want to be loved for that. After all, isn't that what love is?

Yes, that is what love is. The inside parts of who you are. Exactly.
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TexasMade,
I honestly hope I make people feel good about themselves. For me love is hard because of all the losses in my life. But it is still worth the investment. Without the love for my wife my children wouldn't exist. Love grows and changes with us. At least that's been my experience.So as a younger person I may have been more "shallow" but with more life experience I understand the importance of other peoples feelings. In short I want to make love grow. May you know much Peace and Love TexasMade. ((( Hugs )))

I guess I'm just not getting this concept. I was always told that I was the only one who could make me feel these things. I do for others with no expectations of getting anything in return. What a loaded question for me.

No Cypress, you're right.
Doing for others, without expectations in return, is a true testament to the love in your heart.
That is the purest form of love. To give, for the pure joy of giving.

The question was; How do you think you make people feel....Or, I guess, what vibes do you think you give off?
It's more of an analytical question, in my mind.
No need to answer, I'm just trying to show you how I am reading this post....

Well, i was taught that I have no control over how people feel. People are responsible for themselves, just as I am responsible for my own feelings. You ever hear "No one can make you happy. You have to make yourself happy?". Well, there ya go....

I love my best friend because of how "I make her feel" ...Or "How she makes me feel"...???

lol

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