when you're grieving you feel pathetic. It's a good life lesson really. finding out what it's like to crawl on your belly like a worm. Profoundly good for the ego, in that it smashes it and teaches humility.

There's nothing more unbearable than being rejected in love, and there's nothing better for us in terms of character development.

You will feel pathetic. You will feel worthless.

But if you have any common sense you'll keep reminding yourself that this will pass, that everyone over 50 has been through it and survived. So there must be a way through this, even though you just want to crawl under a rock and die.

We all wanted to crawl under a rock and die. And beat ourselves to death. And jump of cliffs.

The difference being that we actually didn't. So don't you, either. If I can survive this then you can too. All it takes is grit, determination, hanging on by the fingernails, crying out loud when the pain gets too bad, and oh man if you can distract yourself? do it. Hard work. hard work, long hours, whatever you can do to help you get through this awful awful time.

I am sorry that somebody left you. Bridgie is right, this totally sucks, but there are paths through this mess. We all found ours, perhaps some of what worked for us may work for you.

I found that getting an other interest, something that was under my control, worked well. Another partner would be great, but sports, or bike riding or music would be there when I wanted it there, and that helped a lot.

I am a bit older than you (he he he, a lot older), but I found that Beatles music worked great for me. Do you have a favorite group?

Not necessarily no, and thank you for replying. The person hasn't left me. Just feels like sometimes they aren't really there

life is hard, relationships are super hard. trusting in and depending on another human being is such a leap, such a terrifying thing, it is a wonder any of us can manage to let ourselves do it and then survive it. at least that is my experience. but it has to be worth it i think. bridgie and pepperman have excellent advice as always. hugs!

That's true it does pass .When im depressed I force myself self into doing something .As for me I put on my baseball grove and throw my baseball at a wall until until im out of that dark forest.

I get depressed all the time and you guys probly have heard things like staying active is good meds . its true when you slow and drift and reflect on mistakes of the past it creeps on you Get yourself moving
Were all in this together.