Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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DepressedRecluse 12/31/2008

HELP ME...

MY RELATIONSHIP IS FALLING APART AND IT HURTS!!!

I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO.....

-DepressedRecluse-

deleted_user 12/31/2008

honey, hugs to you. I don't know your situation, and i know it doesn't stop the pain, but I truly believe that you have to give up something you think is good in order to make room for something great, and that when one door closes another one opens.

Hugs, sweetie.

deleted_user 12/31/2008

You didn't give us to much information. Sorry you are going through a hard time.

God bless

deleted_user 12/31/2008

give us more details so we're able to help :)

deleted_user 12/31/2008

Honey...there really is nothing you can do unless you are the sole cause for the breakup happening. Give them time.

DepressedRecluse 12/31/2008

thanks, guys...

i was venting last night...you see, my relationship with my fiance' has been falling apart for a while now...but last night....it became apparently clear that if i don't do something fast, i am going to again FAIL at something that i have invested so much time and love into...

my road from a strong, independent, self-sufficient woman to who i am now (DepressedRecluse) started when my first marriage ended...that broke my heart....and i promised my self that i would NOT ALLOW MYSELF to fall into that situation again...and i didn't for almost 10 years...

now...here i am going into 2009 with another pending heartbreak...i love my fiance so much more than i loved my ex-husband...and believe me, I LOVED HIM, WHOLEHEARTEDLY...

all this rejection, and pending breakdown of our relationship...is sooo painful...this is why i didn't want to go through this again...this is why i built up a 100 ft high wall around my heart...because i know it can't take another smashing blow...

IT JUST HURTS SO BAD...i couldn't sleep last night, that's why i came on asking for help without giving to much information....i'm sorry...

i just wanted to SCREAM...and couldn't do it anywhere but on hear....

and yes it did help a little....after spending 2 hours here, i went back to bed and fell asleep...so for that i am thankful...

-DR-

meandthebeast 12/31/2008

sorry your going through this hon.. and what a horrible time of year to have to face it..
Have you told your fiance your honest thoughts about what is going on?
If things dont work out then they were never meant to be.. Maybe its a good thing and will open the door for someone else that will love you as mush as you love them.. Just a thought.. good luck my friend.. Y'Vonne

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