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OT/Finally putting myself 1st

Diane-M
Diane-M
ok....this has been a HUGE problem for me. I have been told I am a people pleaser, that I cannot say no, that I want everyone to love me-whatever the reason......I have not been taking care of myself because I put everyone else first.

But the last week and a half, I have been getting dizzy and collapsing. And I am exhausted physically and mentally. Everyone counting on me has been on their own...because I feel like crapola. and the world continued to spin.

I am undergoing tests, I am taking time for me. I will always be available for true emergencies, but non-problems are no longer my concern. It is going to take me some time to get used to this though I think, I still feel a little bit of guilt.
Community LeaderWanderingVet
WanderingVet
Sorry for the dizzy etc. issues. Otherwise, I am very glad to see this post of yours. First .... yes ... works out best for all concerned .. actually.
Diane-M
Diane-M
It's amazing how being "sicker than a dog" can change one's perspective.....
TroJanThunder
TroJanThunder
Not OT at all as far as I am concerned! I am very happy to see you being ready to say No and put yourself first for a change.
gramybear
gramybear
DO NOT FEEL GUILTY!! I did the same thing while taking care of my mother all that time until she passed and now I am going through a lot of tests, blood work, MRI's, etc... and I too was dizzy and fainting. I am so happy to hear that you are going to put yourself first. If you start to back slide, please pmessage me and I will do everything I can to help you through it. I DO understand. Lots of hugs. GB
LuvMyTitans
LuvMyTitans
Please Please take good care of yourself Diane. I'm sorry you've been feeling so crapola.. Glad you're getting tests run to hopefully find some answers why and treated and feeling good again.. it's okay to say ' no ' if you have to in order to take care of you first.

Lose the guilt... okay? Keep us posted.. and take care of YOU.

((((((((((((((((( HUGS ))))))))))))))))))))

LMT
Community LeaderThePepperMan
ThePepperMan
Wow, this is fantastic! You have shared bits of your journey with us here, and I must say I admire you for standing up for yourself! Do so without any regrets!

Gentle hugs, and perhaps a couple gentle nudges!
gustokitty
gustokitty
Wow, I hope everything turns out ok, could u be preggers???

It is a hard thing to change, that is, learning to put yourself first. You will slip, I'm sure, but keep in mind that it is your responsibility to take good care of yourself. I'm rooting for you, it's something I had to learn to do also, and it's a hard habit to break. It doesn't mean you still won't be a kind, generous and lovable person. It just means balance.
Victorious
Victorious
I relate with your message and it is due to this that I made a very drastic change. I feel that others were first because I wanted to make a difference, etc. The point is that I changed all that and now I am first.

I hope you hold your ground and wish you the best.

Victorious.
koolman
koolman
It's so sad that it takes a physical illness for some of you to realize you need to put yourself first. If you're sick, you can't even help yourself much less anyone else, right?

It's great that you're finally putting yourself first, Diane. Tell everyone that you're no good to them if you're sick. I'm sure they'll understand and hopefully this'll assuage any guilt.
Desigol1979
Desigol1979
Join the club, Honey! I need to establish better boundaries myself. (will be moving to assisted living within the next fortnight)
Diane-M
Diane-M
The Echo came back normal. Very relieved. Still not feeling well. But we all know how stress can make us feel. Still working on those changes. Slow going. I really could use a break from this depression. My birthday is Monday. It is a day I usually enjoy. But I realized I am not even looking forward to it this year. Thank goodness I have therapy tonight. I don't want to make this an entirely gloomy post...so I would like to end by saying that I am so grateful for you here. The hugs, the messages, the friendship. Please know it means a lot to me.
survivor69
survivor69
U MAY B DIZZY BECAUSE OF UNKOWN RESENTMENT THAT CAUSES ANGER PUTTING EVERYONE ELSE B4 U.
TAKE A BREAK AND RELAX.
LET OTHER PEOPLE DO THEIR OWN RESPONSIBILITIES.
I LEARNED THIS THE HARD WAY.
I HAD A NERVOUS BREAKDOWN FROM ANGER FROM HIDDEN RESENTMENT BECAUSE I WAS DOING OTHER PEOPLES JOBS.
BE WARE SWEETIE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
GBU
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