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I was feeling bad when I posted about the support group where I went and didnt feel welcome.
Last night I went to a happy hour, and after it was over, the host took me aside and started talking to me. I've been involved with a group for about two years now, going to parties, feeling pretty good about it. After years of looking for activity and friendship and acceptance I thought I had found it.
I felt like a bomb was dropped on me. He said it was his observation that I was alone, that I was sort of left out, that I hadn't found my place there. He said that he didn't think that I fit in, and that they did not accept me. I was totally stunned, in shock. I didn't feel alone, I didn't feel bad. After that discussion, I have been in shock. It is like one huge shock right on top of another. I just can't believe it. I felt like I was ostracized and left out of the support group when the mad said that he was going to leave because of me, and then this other thing, which is my social life, basically what he was saying was that I didn't have any and was walking around there all by myself. There are some clicks there, yeah I get it, and I know I am not friends with as many ppl anymore, but I was just completely stunned. I feel like I should leave completely, like I belong nowhere, that I should take the hint and just get the hell out. I am in shock.
Last night I went to a happy hour, and after it was over, the host took me aside and started talking to me. I've been involved with a group for about two years now, going to parties, feeling pretty good about it. After years of looking for activity and friendship and acceptance I thought I had found it.
I felt like a bomb was dropped on me. He said it was his observation that I was alone, that I was sort of left out, that I hadn't found my place there. He said that he didn't think that I fit in, and that they did not accept me. I was totally stunned, in shock. I didn't feel alone, I didn't feel bad. After that discussion, I have been in shock. It is like one huge shock right on top of another. I just can't believe it. I felt like I was ostracized and left out of the support group when the mad said that he was going to leave because of me, and then this other thing, which is my social life, basically what he was saying was that I didn't have any and was walking around there all by myself. There are some clicks there, yeah I get it, and I know I am not friends with as many ppl anymore, but I was just completely stunned. I feel like I should leave completely, like I belong nowhere, that I should take the hint and just get the hell out. I am in shock.
But it seems like you have your head on straight; you're not living in fantasy land. You recognize that there are cliques in the group, but you're still enjoying the camaraderie of socializing with them. What's wrong with that? Nothing.
There is nothing wrong with you, but you have run into some odd people lately! My only guess is that this host was projecting his feelings on the situation. Maybe he saw that you weren't in a clique and just ASSUMED that you felt bad about it.
Anyway, "this too shall pass." ;) It's just a few weird experiences, but it's more about these strange people than it is about you. Try not to let it affect how you feel about yourself.
But please, don't give up, don't leave the group. You belong as much as anybody there. The host sounds like kind of a jerk who doesn't know what he's talking about.
Awful, just awful. I'm so so sorry that that happened to you. Please rewind and erase it if possible. (Wish our brains did work that way.)
There are a lot other support groups out there who would appreciate you. You have all of us on DS.
Healing Hugs, Snail
I hope there is someone else who sub hosts the group that you can turn to and discuss this with.
I can imagine the hurt and rejection you feel.
My support groups are the only place I feel safe to share my woes etc with so I can guess how gutted you are feeling!! Hugs.x