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Hi,
I realize what I am about to say might be odd as in fact, it is odd.
But, lastinight, I was at a friend's house, a monthly gathering of people, when my friend, a guy, said, let's go outside for fresh air, so that he could smoke, evidently.
Another person came out for a smoke and this conversation between them ensued. It almost sounded staged and planned, as thought he did not want to say something just directly to me.
He is engaged to my other friend, a woman; they are a couple.
He started talking about how his fiance just had trouble wrapping her mind around polyamory, and that is scared to get married because he used to be in an open relationship, and prefers it that way. She wants a monogamous relationship. This conversation between the two of them ensued, with the other friend giving examples of her own experience with multiple relationships and how well it worked out for her. And then they had this exchange where they said that "it's not cheating if the other person knows about it." And then he said to me later that "he's always been told by women that he's been transparent," to which I replied that I really don't know what he's talking about (because I don't want to talk about it)
So I basically felt like this was some way to segue me into some open lifestyle. Which annoys me because I am the type of person who would prefer that someone say DIRECTLY TO ME, "We're in an open relationship and I'm interested in you." Not some dumb and obvious conversation. I felt like it was a PSA for swinging.
I realize what I am about to say might be odd as in fact, it is odd.
But, lastinight, I was at a friend's house, a monthly gathering of people, when my friend, a guy, said, let's go outside for fresh air, so that he could smoke, evidently.
Another person came out for a smoke and this conversation between them ensued. It almost sounded staged and planned, as thought he did not want to say something just directly to me.
He is engaged to my other friend, a woman; they are a couple.
He started talking about how his fiance just had trouble wrapping her mind around polyamory, and that is scared to get married because he used to be in an open relationship, and prefers it that way. She wants a monogamous relationship. This conversation between the two of them ensued, with the other friend giving examples of her own experience with multiple relationships and how well it worked out for her. And then they had this exchange where they said that "it's not cheating if the other person knows about it." And then he said to me later that "he's always been told by women that he's been transparent," to which I replied that I really don't know what he's talking about (because I don't want to talk about it)
So I basically felt like this was some way to segue me into some open lifestyle. Which annoys me because I am the type of person who would prefer that someone say DIRECTLY TO ME, "We're in an open relationship and I'm interested in you." Not some dumb and obvious conversation. I felt like it was a PSA for swinging.
I was trying to explain how I feel to the people here to tell my Dr. And you know what one lady said, "print this out" and show it to your Dr. I did and she got the just and changed around my meds and such.
What I'm getting at is perhaps you should print this out and show your friend. That you were seeking advice because you love her and are concerned about her. Print it as is...NO SUGAR COATING. Just a suggestion.
Does sound HORRIBLE to me. Like a train wreck. Get away ASAP!
Best of luck to you. God bless you :) ((((HUG)))