i do not know about you but i hate when ppl say that to me...it just sucks....most ppl do not understand because they do not want to..they are too self involved in there self than to worry about other ppl who are hurting inside....i know because i am there too...if you want to share what is going on let me know or keep posting here....lost of good ppl are here who will not judge you....

It might sound stupid but I don't trust people. It's just that they give me false hope. My family especially. They hate eachother but once in a while I can see how prefect we could be. Laughing real laughs. But then something small happens and they are back to fighting. They yell so loud. Mom isn't in the best health but my brother doesn't help at all. He doesn't care about anyone else.

Thats the worse, when people act like if you just force a smile it will all get better. My dad constantly will sing the "let it go" song from frozen when I can't hide my depression any longer. They act like we actually chose to feel depressed. Like you think I really want to feel like this every day? They make it worse because they can't take the time to empathize and try to understand how we're feeling.

I never understood it myself... Until I realized I was depressed myself.

I've tried talking to people... And I just keep being told "do something about it and stop crying"

It isn't that simple... I try to do something about it... I've tried for years... I'm on medication as well...

So just know you are not alone in how you feel. I'm another person you can talk to if you need.

They say this because there's an element of choice in every depressive episode. A funny kind of moment, where we can choose. you can see it very easily in a child.

something happens and the people watching that child can see, it can go one of two ways. And the child makes a choice. You can see him make the choice.

So if a child consistently chooses to cry, that is where they will end up. And if they consistently choose to be brave, that is where they will end up.

If your friends are telling you to choose the other way, you have to learn where that moment of choice sits, and how to access it. You may have lost it as a small child. People can screw that up and nowadays, with creches, even more children can lose access to that inner space and that special moment of choice.

I found it in me again in about 2013. at the age of 43. It exists, choice and power and control exist. You have to just choose, and the choice will be made.

But in the mean-time, I had to learn this space by getting a lot of help. so get your help, and then look for this space inside you. Your friends won't understand where you are lost, they only know where the path is. Use them to learn about the path.

People don't understand depression if they haven't been through it. Sure, some of them have good intentions, but it's still hard for them to understand. It took me years to even realize that I had been struggling with depression, and then to admit it to myself. For me, I saw a counselor for a while and it helped me realize when I tend to slip into depression. I don't know your situation, so it could be different for you, but have you already talked to a counselor or someone similar? If not, that might be a great place to start. Hoping you find support, strength, and healing!

Nobody understands depression unless they have been through it all the emotions involved and when people ask you what's wrong you have no answer it's about emotions your individual emotions and a lot of people don't take mental health seriously bc they think you can just snap out of it which makes me so mad if you ever need to talk message me this web site has been very helpful to me ❤️

I think most of us have either been depressed,going through it or waiting for shoe to drop.

I have heard this, and I take it as a short way of saying that they arent interested in hearing about your problem. Maybe it isnt, but it always seemed like a shut- down to me.. People are selfish