Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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SoulOverflowing 05/09/2011

Hello. I've come across this board in the hopes of getting and giving additional support to those with depression. My story is this:

I have a history of depression/anxiety and OCD, and am currently in therapy while taking Wellbutrin. I'm getting married very soon to a great guy who thinks the world of me. I've been very excited about this until recently, when I realized how close the wedding is. All of a sudden I'm anxious and depressed about leaving home. I've lived with my parents to save money for when I'm financially ready and have always been very close with them. Now that I'm moving out I can't stand the thought of leaving the house, neighborhood, and familiarity that I know. I'm only moving about 20 minutes away from them, but I feel a sense of guilt and sadness. I'm terrified of the unknown and I hate change. My parents and fiance know my mental health issues and are very supportive, assuring me that I'll be okay and things will take time. I just can't feel happy like I once was. I've thought about backing out of the plans on more than one occasion. I don't want to feel this way; I have no reason. I just want to stop being this way.

deleted_user 05/09/2011

I am sorry you are feeling so bad. If you are sure this is the man you want to marry, you are probably just scared of the changes and unknown of moving. I lived as a single mom for many years and when I was to marry my husband (although I knew I wanted to marry him) I was very scared. It seems maybe you are just overwhelmed and feel very safe with your parents. If your marrying a loving, supportive man who you love, try to think of it as a positive change. You will be starting a whole new life with the man you love, but will still have your family nearby. I don't know how helpful this is, but I wanted to welcome you to DS.

Obeylix 05/09/2011

Fear of change is perfectly normal for most people, we all have things that we would rather have stay the same. I am moving myself soon, the anxiety that goes with it is horrid, so I feel your pain.
Although the fear is there this could be a new dawning for your mental health. You can get through this and although the unknown is scary it can help create a 'shell' that makes things easier.

lance139169 05/09/2011

My heart goes out to you over what you are going through. I too am very anxious about losing the familiarity of my home and neighborhood. I'm being forced out of my house in to an apartment because of my divorce. I'm doing this all on my own because I have no family.

I think that you should take comfort in knowing that your fiance would never take you to a place that would not be good for you. Fear of the change ahead of you is natural. Perhaps if you can think of these changes as one step at a time, instead of projecting what the big picture is you'll be better off.

I'm pulling for you...

ElenaNJ 05/09/2011

hi, welcome to this forum. you say you want to stop feeling the way you do. but what if you just let yourself feel the way you do, maybe the feelings will eventually subside, run their course. i don't know that for sure, but maybe. i've heard time and time again, that feelings aren't good or bad, that they just are.

you express yourself very well, do you journal at all? this may be a way for your to work through your feelings too. you could look at it this way too, once you do marry, you can still spend over nights at your parents on the weekends, if your parents don't mind. or you could all go away on mini vacations if that isn't too much for you. i know how anxiety feels and i'm sorry you're going through that. maybe there is additional medicine that you can take to help you thru this big change. best of luck to you sweetie. please keep posting if it helps you.

SoulOverflowing 05/09/2011

Thank you all for your encouraging words. I know that I've always had trouble with change and that stress triggers my depression/anxiety. My therapist has recommended I talk to my doctor about increasing my meds. I'm also trying to look at the bigger picture and realize that it's a chemical imbalance that makes me feel this way, not because all is hopeless or terrible.

I send good vibes and positive emotions to you all.

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