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Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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alow
alow

Hey everyone! I don't know if I am in the right area or doing the right thing by even writing on here, but I thought I would try. I have been struggling lately (a few months) with myself. I have never felt so bad looking in a mirror, and seeing all these flaws (not just physical). I have good days but bad days as well. I have always been the type of person that others can depend on and trust. I check up on people when I know they're not ok. Nobody checks on me though. My fiance tries, but due to me being in school we are doing long distance so that isn't helpful either. I have so many negative thoughts about myself I eventually just break down. I can't fully express how I feel to anyone because I don't feel like they understand. There are just so many things weighing in my mind that it has pushed me towards thinking of harming or not eating. I struggle so much with myself that somedays I don't want to see anyone or get out of bed. Anyways, that's me and I would love feedback if you have any. Thanks for taking the time out of your day to read this.

Kingsolomon66
Kingsolomon66
Hi, keep writing here, your in the right place. There are many good people here just trying to get by that can relate and give you advice. Oh, and the definition of 'flaw' a mark, fault, or other imperfection that mars a substance or object... It doesn't say anything about people so your not flawed, your unique
CeeCee7
CeeCee7
Hello, I'm new on here too. I also struggle with major depression and isolating or hiding in my room. I'm hoping this community helps, I've yet to make my own post. Anyway, know you're not alone :)
Bobby5000
Bobby5000
As probably others have said, its a question of perception and media. There have been several stars who posted plain pictures of themselves without makeup to show how regular people look. Everyone is not perfect and I think trying is a thankless endeavor. I guess here men make more sense, and while objectively there are the same percentage of regular looking men, far more perceive themselves as handsome which I guess is generally a good thing.
Ontime2019
Ontime2019
I want to encourage you by saying that you are beautiful, you were created that way and you remain that way regardless of the struggles you are facing with your self perception and changing weight.
agse
agse
You are definitely in the right place. Thank you for reaching out and sharing your struggles. That took courage. It's not always easy to admit when we are struggling. I think within our culture it's easy for us to focus on our "negatives." We are always getting messages saying we need to "be more, do more." It's easy to start believing those lies! Is self improvement a good thing? Yes, we should always strive to be the best version of ourselves, but when we become obsessive about it or only see our flaws then it becomes a problem.
When I start having negative thoughts about myself, I try to figure out what is going on in my life to cause me to go down this road. Am I allowing a lot of negativity into my life? Am I comparing myself to others? (this is a big one that will send me into a downward spiral!) Having I been taking care of myself..physically, mentally and emotionally? I know it' so easy to invest in other people, but not take the same care of ourselves. Self care is important. When I start having negative thoughts or feeling anxious, I try to replace those negative thoughts with a positive one or two! We do have the power to counteract the negative thoughts and the choice not to believe them. Sometimes we just have to dig a lot deeper within ourselves to find the strength to do it. Having a couple of good friends/support system that I can go to no matter what is helpful as well. They love me no matter how I am feeling or what I have to say. Finding 1 or 2 friends like that may help you as well. I just want you to know you are valuable for who you are, not for how you look or what you do. You are worthwhile just because you are you! You have so much to offer this world. Don't get caught up in believing the lies in your head! You are bigger then they are!
Seeing a therapist might not be a bad idea as well. Wishing you the best!
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