Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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NickyJ 03/24/2018

Hello... My name is Nicky. I'n not diagnosed with depression or anything, but...sometimes life is lonely. And I know that I am not the only one out there feeling lonely even if you have friends, family and colleuges ( om my gosh that isn't even spelt right- am I using the right tenses?) ---Yes, I am a bit of a scatterbrain. But aren't we all sometimes. :)

You see, I lost myself somewhere, and yes, losing yourself is part of life sometimes. And I am ready to find myself again- I just don't quite know where the heck to begin... or where to find the strength to move forward without feeling---fake.

I'm not sure if I am just being silly, but sometimes, I feel like there are two me's. The one who is passionate, driven and a workaholic( which I loved being) -- and then the me who just lies in bed all day and cannot focus, no matter how much I want to try to focus...

What do I do? How do I find myself again, and breathe and feel like ...me?

shadowlady 03/24/2018

Hi Nicky,
We all lose ourselves at times. Life can throw some curveballs. We all have bad days too where we'd like to hide all day. Guess you just have to make yourself go on the rough days. Be thankful for the good. You'll probably snap out of it before long, if not maybe you should see a doctor. Blessings.

Bobby5000 03/24/2018

"I feel like there are two me's. The one who is passionate, driven and a workaholic( which I loved being) -- and then the me who just lies in bed all day and cannot focus," The passionate part of you needs to think this out, consider the benefits of work, and consider how to get the rest of you to cooperate- what triggers help- writing down the benefits of what you will do, how you feel better accomplishing things, best case scenarios in the future. Then when the depressed part comes into play you will hopefully have enough tools to get through it, perhaps writing down the benefits of work.

rachel.2535 03/26/2018

Hey there Nicky,
I too am quite the scatterbrained girl....:) I also went through depression for most of my life and never felt whole. Sometimes it takes talking to a friend, to a pastor, to a counselor, or even all of these together. When we find ourselves missing something take a step back and as you have done ask. For me I was missing a relationship.....one of the most important ones of my life. I was missing God. I tried to blame myself for so many things that were out of my hands and that led me down a spiral, God helped me out of it. There is hope and there is a way. Talk to someone and allow them to help you figure out what it is that is missing (by the way you are awesome for starting here!). If you would like to pm me I have a great place to start. Praying for you - Rachel

Polkafly 03/28/2018

The most important thing; You're not alone. There are always people there for you. I think being an adult, we always kept swept away in day to day life and if we're not enjoying where we are any more. Do you have any hobbies or things you like to do?

djchurn 03/28/2018

You are fortunate to have received so much intelligent help. Others who a discussed being a "workaholic' have expressed what I did when I was at work. I immersed myself in the job to escape the lack a self esteem I felt for myself. Glad you found this place and even more glad that places like this exist. Coming here is a vital element to my daily routine. Hope I sounded positive enough.

NickyJ 04/02/2018

Hello everyone that responded! Thank you so much for your helpful , supportive comments! -- Bobby5000- writing it down works!

djchurn---I am happy I found this place too! Like a little safe haven through all the chaos!

Polkafly---I just started with photography again :)

Rachel--- such a ball of love, I can feel the kindness and warmth you radiate - even over the internet!

Shadowlady- I did snap out of it, turns out I was suuuuuuuper burnt out, and needed tons of sleep!!! XP

SimpsonOK: Aren't we humans complicated beings! Thank you for your support too. I'm enjoying myself on the good days- and soldiering through the bad days!

Thank you guys for being my unknown rocks the last few weeks- big hugs ( or shoulder bumps if you don't like hugs) :)

djchurn 04/02/2018

You are thankful and have a sense of humor. Those attributes make you someone special.

PhobiaFreak17 04/02/2018

I feel the same. I say try getting on an online chat (any app will work) and just try to be yourself on the chat. Soon enough, you'll start acting like that person you are in the chat in real life. I suggest the chat in the app Scary stories and Urban legends. People on it do cuss, so I just wanted to warn you about that if you're not okay with cussing. The people there are still very friendly and funny and will lift your spirits and definitely make you feel less lonely. It is a scary story app, but you don't even have to read them or make any stories. And some of the people on the chat are going through the same things as you. And there are some people who are willing to help the other people. If you get on, look for Young_Writer. That's me. Hope you feel less lonely :)

PhobiaFreak17 04/02/2018

Adding on to my last reply: if you ever feel like this again, which I hope you don't, it's worth a shot. And to other people with this problem, you could try it, too.

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