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Never thought it could be me

Day1
Day1

I just saw the support group and realize maybe that's what I have. I can't eat my stomach is in knots all I do is cry. sometimes I leave my office almost running just to get outside and walk and let the tears fall. This divorce has me feeling like a failure. My husband said he had to go find himself...... and fix what's been broken.  He's been depressed since his mother died 3 years ago. Diabetes has made him impotent and he hasn't touched me in 3 years. I've done all I can do as a wife and I stayed when I wanted to leave. I cried myself to sleep night after night week after week month after month.  I slept in my car I've begged and pleaded and he had the nerve to walk out on me. Honestly I don't even think I liked them much anymore in the last couple years I stayed because I said I would and then he just text me and left. I don't know why I'm so hurt it's almost a relief but I just can't seem to keep it together.  I'm down 17 pounds which is probably a good thing but my stomach is in knots my head hurts I can't sleep I can't eat it's affecting my work and I'm terrified of the amount of debt he left me in. One second I'm up one second I'm down one second I'm crying one second I'm making plans for the rest of my life. What's wrong with me...

theflying400
theflying400
Try getting some counseling as soon as possible, magnesium and excersize are two healthy ways that will slightly improve your situation. The power of counseling is absolutely amazing but its the moments that you're alone that are the hardest. I have a 15 year old brother that is dying so i understand your struggle, i don't know if your religious or not but talking with a pastor helped me along with counseling and doing those things. I wish you the best of luck and i can tell you that theres always hope. This won't last forever i promise
Community Leaderbobinmaine
bobinmaine
It sounds like you had a toxic relationship. There are many ways to treat impotance from medication to implants.

There is this thing called Divine Providence which is when God allows something bad to happen to bring about a greater good. This has occured many times in my life. One of them was when my wife divorced me which was a very rough time, but we had many problems. That was 4 years ago, but today, I am happier then I have ever been!

Love yourself and be kind to yourself. If you can do that then I really believe the rest will take care of itself.

God Bless
bridgie101
bridgie101
To be honest, it's grief. You're going through grief. It's ghastly. It took me at least a year to come together but the worst of it was over within a month or 2.

Not eating - I lost about 10kg. No eat, no sleep. Sheer terror about financial situation.

But one thing by one thing stuff comes right. Try to force food down though, because you can break the anxiety cycle by eating. There's something about the not eating cycle that makes it perpetuate itself. Great for losing weight, bad for the whole no sleep, giant mess thing.

It is like anxiety, but when you have anxiety disorder it hasn't been caused by a giant cause like marital breakup.

let yourself be wibbly wobbly, let yourself be emotionally all over the place - buy yourself time if you need it to settle somewhere in the centre. All the best. I know what you're going through and it's awful.

Time is your friend. :)
djchurn
djchurn
Your post and the replies you received has helped me better understand a situation that I could not reconcile for 20 years. Thank you!
Day1
Day1
Blown Away... thank you all for your words. One moment I feel like I'm losing my mind and the next I feel free if I have a new life. The highs and lows are exhausting but I know it takes time. Our relationship was horrible I cried almost everyday for 2 years. I should feel like he did me a favor but the uncertainty of starting over is tumultuous, the humiliation of a divorce... I'm devastated.......this was supposed to be my forever. It's almost like sometimes we hold on to the very thing that God himself is trying to remove. Thank you all for your words I really appreciate it. I'm taking it one day, sometimes just 5 minutes at a time
Community LeaderThePepperMan
ThePepperMan
Sometimes in all the chaos we feel like nothing is in our control, kind of like being one of those little balls in an old fashioned pinball machine. So grab onto something, any thing, to make you comfortable. Perhaps eat one granola bar for breakfast. No matter what, you get to control the flavor (get one of those variety packs!).

Little things can add up, and at some point you will feel like you have regained some of the control you are looking for.

Gentle hugs
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