Good afternoon Mand. I'm sorry you are feeling down. I felt the same way when I was in school and got lower grades... Now that I have a son who is in middle school, I find myself very obsessed with his grades. (I promised I would never do that lol but growing up does things to you.) Parents just want what is best for their children and their futures. Have you expressed this to your mom, that it hurts your feelings when she downplays your hard efforts with your school work? God Bless.

Congratulations on your B!!!! That's an excellent grade!!!!

Hello BE0312! Yea I have, I am in highschool so she just wants me to have a good gpa and all. In first quarter I had a 3.8, which is good but I could do better. So I think she just expects a lot more than I was anticipating

You tell mom that a B is outstanding! It is nothing to be ashamed of! Just keep doing what you are doing and don't get down on yourself! You are doing Great!

God Bless

Wow, we talk about this a lot in the caring for aging parents group. Sounds like your mother is getting a head start on this.

It is hard to deal with a parent who sets high standards for us, and then raises them if we meet those standards.

One of the best things you can do is to look to yourself for praise on good grades and other things.

Is your father in your life? If so, does he praise you for your accomplishments?

try talking to her about how your feeling don't hide your feelings from her so she could understand you better and help you out if your feeling depressed there is medication for depression if your doctor recommends it and there is always a therapist you could talk too on the side. I'll be here if you want to talk too.

Sit her down caringly and tell her you'll get b's if you jolly well choose to, and if she doesn't like it, perhaps you'll start getting c's until she learns to keep her nose out of your affairs.

This is however coupled with you not sponging off her till you're thirty because you didn't get a job.

I am sorry you are feeling like you are not enough. I am sure that your mom would disagree.. it sounds like she just has high standards and expectations for you because of the value she sees in you. She know what you are capable of and it sounds like she wants to push you to be your best. Chin up and keep giving it all you’ve got!!!

I wish I could give you a big hug doll. If you think a B is the best grade you could have gotten, and you are proud of your hard work, then tell yourself you did a good job!

I grew up with a similar mother, and the only time she expressed pride in my work was to show off to other people.

The truth is that she was never happy with what gave her. I won a State Superintendent Award, and she only nodded in satisfaction. Mentally she was patting HERSELF on the back that she raised me right. I heard her say as much to a friend once.

Do your best because it's your education and your future that you are preparing for. You have to care about the score, NOT YOUR MOM. In the end, you are doing the work, your name is on the test and you make the decisions.

I know it's hard because you love her, but whether she is happy or sad with your results is not your problem. It's not your job to satisfy your Mom.

If it's any help, I am very proud you made a B.