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Before i start....I know I have been doing a lot of dumping here. But his has become a pretty safe place to do so. So I have been on the receiving end of a lot of things lately.I have been hurt by people that I thought were in my corner. I am even upset at the general public....I have been attempting to register for some craft shows, and no one is getting back to me. Friends say they will call and don't...the list goes on and on. Not following through has become the norm it seems. This has caused me to experience feelings i can honestly say are foreign to me. Anger has unfortunately been my constant companion in the last year or so...and that is bad enough.. But recently I find myself being full of hate for those that hurt me, and entertaining notions of somehow getting revenge. This is the complete opposite of the person i used to be.
I have no idea what to do about these feelings. The only thing I can come up with is not putting myself in ANY situation where I run the risk of being hurt. Just pulling away.....no more trying for craft shows, no more volunteering (long story), not getting close to anyone anymore. Perhaps being lonely and friendless will be preferable to being hurt.
Unfortunately I never got a chance to discuss these feeling with my therapist recently, the time goes so fast and we really needed to discuss my marriage......
I have no idea what to do about these feelings. The only thing I can come up with is not putting myself in ANY situation where I run the risk of being hurt. Just pulling away.....no more trying for craft shows, no more volunteering (long story), not getting close to anyone anymore. Perhaps being lonely and friendless will be preferable to being hurt.
Unfortunately I never got a chance to discuss these feeling with my therapist recently, the time goes so fast and we really needed to discuss my marriage......
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Can you identify these rom-coms from just a screenshot from the middle of the films? This is a multiple choice quiz so even if you're not entirely sure you can always take a guess and at least have a 25% chance of getting it right anyway, so why not have a go?! https://www.buzzfeed.com/alysaurus688/rom-com-screenshot-trivia-quiz
Sometimes we need to look at the world as machine that is not in perfect running order. But it is a machine that we need to do things we really REALLY want to do.
(Picture a young struggling Louis-Franois Cartier, before he became famous, driving a broken down Ford Mustang to get his jewelry from one show to another. He would fix the blasted thing how ever he could in order to get to the next show!)
(In the above story ignore the fact that he was French, and lived from 1819 to 1904 a few years before there was a Ford Mustang!)
So when the machine does not work just right we can replace defective parts (if we can find replacements) or we can fix it as best we can so that we can use it.
Don't take it personally when people don't get back to you. Get upset, get angry, make a voodoo doll of them and stab it with pins and needles as much as you need. But you need them to get your craft show stuff done, so keep after them. Call them back as often as necessary because it is you that is on the line, not them!
I learned a lesson from a friend long time ago: success is one of the two the best forms of revenge!
Continuing hugs
GBU
DRENA B
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What you need - and spend some time with the therapist on it because your marriage will benefit - is to learn tactics for responding when you are angry.
I am getting that you have absolutely no strategy for expressing anger or getting your way when people don't follow the rules.
You need strategies. And if you don't have them with friends and strangers, I am suspecting you have difficulty with the spouse in this area too? totally reaching here...
Get some strategies. Keep your eye on the prize, getting the thing that you want. Just play mum to these people: send them a reminder.
I am sorry you are feeling so low. You have been kind to me, Diane. I am glad to know you even just a little at this time. Please lean on me. I want to help in anyway I can.
(((((HUGS)))))
heatherhurts
I don't have any suggestions per se, ( you've gotten some great replies and suggestions ) , I just wanted to tell you that I'm really sorry that you are having these feelings and that you've been hurt so much lately. I hope that things get better for you.
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LMT
Keep taking risks. They will pay off eventually.