Please don't do anything to hurt yourself. I'm in the same place you are expect I've been divorced for 10 years. I'm still alone, don't trust people. Please if you need anything I'm here

The problem with putting time limits on things is that we then turn control over to the calendar to solve things.

We need to keep control with ourselves!

Volunteer with a group that shares a concern of yours. But make it one that can "guarantee success". A group that aims to make Latin the official language of the world is not likely to see success in our lifetimes; a group that aims to fight illiteracy one adult at a time is likely to find success one adult at a time.

Struggle in every way! Find long term goals to cling to, and short term goals to get you through times when those long and short term goals seem illusive.

Keep at it!

Sometimes we cling to family (is that you and a family member in your avatar?) when things are hard.

Gentle hugs

Yes that is my niece. I am trying but it doesn't seem worth it to care anymore. I'm just tired

Jessikah,
I can totally relate, my girlfriend left my for my best friend almost 5 months ago and i still think about it almost every minute of every day, i hold in my tears all day until i get home or in my car and then i finally let it out. I cry myself to sleep every night and i too think i'm going crazy. I've pushed away all my friends away because nobody compares to her, nobody is good enough and i don't want anyone else but her. She was my best friend, i've never been closer to anyone. I too have had negative thoughts but i know that aside from being really depressed, lonely and really scared about what my future will be because i don't really have much hope for it, i know there are some good things in my life like my health and family and that decision is something you can never take back. Please message me if you want to talk.

I don't mean to pry, but sometimes we set goals that are too big, and too hard to manage. That is why I suggested some smaller goals.

Sometimes, especially when we are looking for a long term relationship, we need to "till a lot of fields" before we find success.

You know if you are crying you can call me and I will talk to you, I've done this before. And though we don't see eye to eye on everything if you are hurting I do want to help.

Please stop trying to please other people. Our society has not caught up with depression. I have few people to talk with about it. How can we set time limits on grief. I had quite a few losses about 7 years ago when I ended a major relationship. I still get triggers that can cause sadness and set me bad. Each one I go through is one less I will have to deal with in the future. It may be time for you to explore grief. I know it is hard. Hang in there.

I feel like a lot of what I could say would be pretty contrite, but maybe this link would at least give you something to look at.

http://www.xojane.com/healthy/50-reasons-not-to-kill-yourself

I remember asking my doctor to put me in hospital after a friend took their life, The doctors response was just let yourself grieve. Same goes for a breakup if you don't allow yourself to just go through the motions and don't let time run it's course it's when you run into problems. More so with depression as we aren't very good with dealing with our emotions in a lot of cases avoiding it.

It's just a matter of trying to hold onto the basics. Baby steps to cling to each day. Many here who want to help you through this. You are not alone and you don't have to be.