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Anybody with me. Just don't know how much more I can take. My mom broke her hip week before Christmas, I'm going through menopause and my sister and brother are being jerks about the whole thing. They think I should be the one to take care of her even though I live 100 miles away and they only live a few miles away. I want her to try an assisted living facility but no they decide to have her go home and I refuse to do it this time and my daughter in law can't because they only have one car and they won't let her borrow moms car. My mom is an emotional vampire the controlling type and can't go 5 minutes without saying something insulting about someone. There is just no way I can take her right now for any length of time and I appear to be an ogre because I got to think about me.
To top it off my husband has been being a particular ass and yelling about stupid stuff. He yelled as loud as he could how much he hated my daughter in law while I was talking to her on the phone today I was so embarrassed and hurt. I have so been trying to get in a more positive mood but everyone is sabotaging me. I am seriously thinking about going on a long vacation.
To top it off my husband has been being a particular ass and yelling about stupid stuff. He yelled as loud as he could how much he hated my daughter in law while I was talking to her on the phone today I was so embarrassed and hurt. I have so been trying to get in a more positive mood but everyone is sabotaging me. I am seriously thinking about going on a long vacation.
So sorry to read of all your troubles. Your brother & sister realistically just 'live down the road'... You don't! If THEY decided that your mum should go home, rather than into assisted living, then THAT'S on them - they need to accept the consequences of their decision / choice, NOT you. Seems they're trying to control you / manipulate you into doing their bidding - DON'T let them.
What do you mean 'they won't LET' your D.I.L borrow your mum's car. If anyone has a say about it, it's your mum!
Your 'head banging' Av (although humorous) pretty much says it all. Feel for you.
Hugs,
So when will that room be ready Olddrake. lol
Called my brother Saturday and he never returned my call and he is the one with the medical affidavit for her so it's on him, the facility that releases her, and mom if anything bad happens.
Talked to my mom and wasn't a good conversation but I just plan on taking some time away from my whole family except my husband and kids. When I mentioned I was thinking of getting away she couldn't help herself but say insultingly "you've been on vacation your whole life" then right after that had the nerve to ask why I hate her. I said I don't hate you but did you even hear what you just said to me. Maybe she can't help herself, I don't know but you are all right, I have made up my mind to stop letting her do that to me, now I gotta find a way like my husband says to not feel guilty about it.
To answer Sibil's question, my mom won't loan them the car either. She can't really drive it right now but thinks I should buy them a car so they can come by and check on her.
ps Already told my Mom if she ever goes in a nursing home they'll put her in a strait-jacket. She thinks I'm kidding,not!