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Anna1212
Anna1212

I need an in person friend to hang out with for like a couple hours a month.  I'm not asking for that here, just saying and i need that.  i need someone to help me to yard work and go to the store when i'm too tired.  i don't wnat to deal with paying service peope that for that.  i have had terrible experiences with that.  service people being unreliable, criminal, not showing up, doing pooor work,etc.


i remember when i wasyounger i lived in a family.  i wasn't great but it was so much better to not to be all along in so many ways.  duties were shared.  people just don't do well alone for the most part.  i am a loner. very shy and do like my alone time but i need a little bit of human contact here and there that i don't have to pay for.  i think we all do.  


i wish it wasn't so hard to trust people and to make a friend.  there have been people in my life who i thought were my friends who stabbed me in the back.  i just had a dream last night of a girl that i had been sort of friends with at work who is no longer there and i thought of calling her but she was also mean to me too.  i was on the fence about it.  last night i hd a dream that i approached her to talk and she shot me through the neck.


animals are great but that don't live that long and they can't help you rake up the leaves.  there are studies that people who are married are generally healhty and live longer.  i know i lived with this man who as pretty shitty for a couple years and my life was easier then, we split the rent, i had sex once in awhile, i had companionship.  it wasn't great but there are just so many benefits to having another human around.


i know sometimes it's really bad and it's not worth it.  i'm not even looking for a relationshep.  just a good, nice friend to help me out once in awhile.  to pick me up from a doctor's appointment, to help me rake the lawn and maybe to go to lunch with once a month.  i'm probalby too shitty of a person for friendship anyway.


i'm not asking anyone on here to do this, i'm just venting and feeling lonely.  thanks for listening.

Bobby5000
Bobby5000
You seem very nice and I wish you luck. Not sure you need to trust people that much, you enjoy seeing them, hopefully do some things together, and enjoy
the friendship. I'm not lending money to anyone or doing anything too crazy but would try to be a good friend, and recognize that any relationship has to be reciprocal.
amydiaz
amydiaz
Hang in there, Anna. I hope things turn out well for you soon. Just keep breathing.
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abcdefghijklmop1
Perhaps joining a group around some interests you might have such as religion, crafting, reading, could be benificial to build a support system , get out of the house and have a little fun. Like Boby 5000 said, you don't really have to trust them, they can just be acquiantances, people to spend a nice time. Eventually, that could lead to a real connection , a friendship. Hang in there and go for it!
Prycejosh1987
Prycejosh1987
There is always someone that will love you and care about you. I do not know about going shop for you, etc. That sounds like a slave not a friend. If you had the money you could even have that. I think you should work with what you have. Everybody has family and there are some that care more than others.
Bluebird20
Bluebird20
I am sorry you are lonely. It is hard to be single and it is hard to get someone to help you.

Maybe volunteering to help feed or clean cages at an animal shelter.

Volunteering at a soup kitchen. You may not meet a friend, but it feels good. At least for me it did.

I volunteered at the church bingo, before Covid. It felt good. I began to know people's names and meet other people from the church.
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