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gehenna1992 07/28/2015

So... Yeah... My neighbour (the one who came to check on me) has been spending time with me when I come back from work...
I don't really know how to handle her... She's very upbeat and friendly... I already have trouble being around people and she doesn't exactly make it easy.
But here's the real problem. She doesn't exactly respect boundaries...
We had chinese yesterday night and watched some movie (can't really remember wich), everything was pretty mellow, and out of nowhere she laid her head on my lap... Me being who I am stiffed up and stopped breathing...
I don't want to be a dick to her or anything by telling her to stop, but this is getting my anxiety levels off the roof...

Razor91 07/28/2015

I have one of those friends, I think you need to be direct in this situation to make sure she gets it,

SereneNature 07/28/2015

You need to let her know that this is not okay, and how it is affecting you.

She may not even be aware she's making you uncomfortable. Some people are just more 'touchy/feely' with their affection towards others, even platonic friends.

Explaining to her how this is making you uncomfortable and requesting that she respect your boundaries does not make you a dick. Be sure to be clear where you draw the line.

Best.

survivor69 07/29/2015

B DIRECT IN A GENTLE WAY................................
GBU
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;-O

Cindy264 07/29/2015

When a woman puts her head on your lap she wants to take care of your needs. Friends dont do that.

gehenna1992 07/29/2015

@Cindy264 Wait... What do you mean?

Cindy264 07/29/2015

She wants sex.

gehenna1992 07/29/2015

NO! No no no no no no no! No way, not now. I don't want this I really don't!

Cindy264 07/29/2015

A few weeks ago a man asked me for sex. I thought it was a joke because i could not imagine anyone wanting sex from me since i am obese and u attractive. I just dont think that way. So i didnt believe him until he asked a second time. Simone definetly wants you. Her head on your lap is very obvious. I am surprised she didnt unzip your pants. That will be next time or she might just walk out of bathroom naked. Simone sounds very aggressive to get her way with you. Enjoy.

gehenna1992 07/29/2015

shit

ThePepperMan 07/29/2015

Simone may want a relationship with you or she might not. But either way it sounds like she is injecting herself deeper into your life than you want.

I'd be gentle with her and just let her know that you don't move that fast, don't want a relationship, what ever. Just be honest and kind.

Gentle hugs

Cindy264 07/30/2015

I cant resist this one. You said you dont want to be a dick but thats what she wants. Lol.

gehenna1992 07/30/2015

Well too bad Cindy264 I'm not doing that ever...

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