I am so sorry that is awful, especially if your parents don't support you. You are so brave for coming out, I think to get your parents on board you should go to family therapy. You can try telling them that you are a girl no matter how you look on the outside you are a female and the only way for you to be happy is if they have your back. Being 16 and knowing who you truly are is amazing I admire you and I am sorry that your parents are being close minded, but it is your hair you can do whatever you want with it and it is your face and you can dress it up or dress it down. The earrings you have to wait until your 18 to get without parent agreement but SCREW THEM. You are perfect do not let them bring you down. Be who you are a gorgeous girl. I am so sorry I hope everything starts to look up!

I agree with FutureMD, getting therapy is a very good move. I do not understand trans, I get the premise, but the emotions and feelings of it are foreign to me, and hard to understand. Therapy needs to address 4 very important areas in your situation: helping you understand your feelings, helping your parents understand their feelings, helping you understand your parents feelings, and helping your parents understand your feelings. All 4 of these "understandings" can be very complex, but I believe that the hardest are the two where people struggle to understand the feelings of the other.

You have 2 years until you are an adult, is it possible for you to agree with your parents to some form of 'transition time' to help with the process of understanding? This is an honest question on my part, not a veiled putdown or any such thing. I know that I am not part of your situation, but if you have it in your heart to educate me with an answer I would appreciate it. (We get a few cases like yours here on DS, and knowing this answer may help me relate to other people in your situation.)

Gentle hugs, and I truly hope you are able to navigate this very involved situation.

Should I call to get help?