Depression Support Group
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My depression is at a all time high right now.Normally i won't vent about my person business online but right now i feel like i'm about to lose my mind.Now my husband lost his job 4 weeks ago and instead of him sitting around not doing anything he went right out and found anyone but there is a problem the pay is 3 dollars lease then what he was making.Back story for a minute my husband has a ex wife that i believe lives to make his life a living hell.After a year of her having the divorce papers she finally signed them and they have a 17 year old daughter together.Now my husband and I have been together since 2009 and we have tried to see her dpend time with her and everything but because she would tell her mom she doesnt want to come because we have rules in our home you are not going to do what you want and be here.Her mother gets child support from my husband she went and told them that she needed more (keep in mind she was getting almost $400 a month).So my husband got a lawyer and instead of it going up it we down almost $100.Now fast forward to the present my husband and i have 3 kids together and her does his best to prove for us but last night we looked at his check and found out he will only have $50 left after all the bills.I know you are thinking why wont i get a job.Well i would love to work but since is job time has no end time we never know what time he is getting off into he text me and say im off we don't have a babysitter funny my mom is the one that watch them in the morning so i can go to school from 8-12.I have so much on my mind i can keep going for days because know one understand the things i deal with on a daily basics.Sometimes I really feel like GOD hates me or is punishing me for something then i hear people say you don't have anything to be depressed about or get over it.When you don't know how you are going to take care of your kids because tou have no income of your own then to be hit with the bills are coming up i need this amount plus i'm playing my mom $100 a week to keep my kids so i can go to school and for you to say you not going to keep them for me to work.I'm thinking should i just drop out and find a morning job but i'll be done in Nov.Now that child support has start coming out of my husband check honestly i don't know how we are going to stay up foat with everything.
Sd...don't quit. It will work out in the end.
Maybe Mum can help by taking less $ for the children. do you get a government subsidy for childcare in your country? Over here parents get paid 20 hrs per week by government for childcare. Mind you over here if a childcare watches more than 5 children per adult that's breaking the law....
So we have different laws.
As to saving money: are you in an apartment or a house? you could put in a garden at a house, and that reduces food costs and helps you eat more healthy too. I will usually have my own chickens because that makes for cheap eggs, and I can generally sell a dozen to someone a week to pay for feed for all the chooks.
When a mother is at home there is a lot of stuff that she can do to save money; she can't earn it maybe but she can save it. If laundry is under control kids don't need so many clothes. You can make good quality foods from scratch because you have time; stewing beef is cheaper than steak but has to be cooked for longer, that sort of thing. Entertaining the children can involve getting their 'help' with chores or making them play dough.
Are there government run services to help? Food stamps or anything you can sign up for?