Things seem a lot clearer now- i finally got in touch with Matts mom lastnight around 9 ... ok not the best first impression she gets of me - but i had to do something - so i called and said - yeah u don't know me- but u know about me and ur son is gonna kill himself- she laughs hysterically and says oh honey..... he has been threatening this for the last 10 years- he isn't gonna do it- to my surprise she wasn't anything like he had told me- i was told she would be judgemental and hate me- well she was the opposite- she was the sweetest woman i've ever talked to- and we talked for over an hour- again to my amazement- she tells me if i'm pregnant- the family will be there for me and gives me her daughters number and i'm like yeah i met Monica- (Matts sis) - she was like call either one of us anytime. so now i'm thinking things are gonna be ok- she also said - i'm glad u love my son- but honestly i wouldn't be with him- that really made me think... she said u have to give him tough love and tell him he can't have everything his way - and i was like ok i will - she is so strong i wish i was strong like that- she made me smile and laugh- and even said she respected me...and apologized for Matt- i was like this isn't ur fault she said sometimes i wonder where he came from? and i said i could write a book on this situation-she was like when it becomes a best seller i get the first copy ! is it wrong to want to get rid of him and keep his family? ....