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ok, so i need a little insight from someone other than myself.
my boyfriend and i have been together for 2 years, living together for a little over a year. we have had to deal with some things outside from us (death in the family, my getting fired from my work) that we pulled through and supported each other great. we don't constantly fight, occasionally there will be a disagreement, but most relationships have those and should.
we share a bank account, have bought a vehicle together, share bills, have pets whom we love. we laugh and play, cuddle on the couch every night, have a good sex life.... we're practically married in every way.
my boyfriend tells me last night he is not happy, hasn't been for a couple months, and doesn't know why. he is not sure if we are only together due to financial security or if we really want to be. i'm confused, because to me i thought we're terrific. i could honestly see us spending our lives together. we have common opinions, goals, work ethic, humor.... he says at this moment he couldn't see us married, so why continue... though 6-8 months ago he said he could see us being married.
i just don't want him to give up like that, especially when we essentially have a good thing going. he agreed to try and see things through, but i don't know how committed he is to that.
what is going on? my past relationship ended in a situation extremely similar to this.... so what am i doing wrong? what is he thinking?
my boyfriend and i have been together for 2 years, living together for a little over a year. we have had to deal with some things outside from us (death in the family, my getting fired from my work) that we pulled through and supported each other great. we don't constantly fight, occasionally there will be a disagreement, but most relationships have those and should.
we share a bank account, have bought a vehicle together, share bills, have pets whom we love. we laugh and play, cuddle on the couch every night, have a good sex life.... we're practically married in every way.
my boyfriend tells me last night he is not happy, hasn't been for a couple months, and doesn't know why. he is not sure if we are only together due to financial security or if we really want to be. i'm confused, because to me i thought we're terrific. i could honestly see us spending our lives together. we have common opinions, goals, work ethic, humor.... he says at this moment he couldn't see us married, so why continue... though 6-8 months ago he said he could see us being married.
i just don't want him to give up like that, especially when we essentially have a good thing going. he agreed to try and see things through, but i don't know how committed he is to that.
what is going on? my past relationship ended in a situation extremely similar to this.... so what am i doing wrong? what is he thinking?
You cuddle on the couch every night? That's sounds nice, but maybe you two need to develop a few outside interests of your own so that you could be more interesting to each other! Every couple needs outside as well as shared interests.
It sounds like you two have an acute case of overexposure to each other. Try to develop some interest other than cuddling on the couch, and see what happens. Start at the local library-I don't know what I'd do without it!
we both work a lot - about 60 hours a week each, so the couch time is what i feel where we try to reconnect after a long day.
:-(
I'm sorry!
i remember my parents talking about the divorce twice when i was a teenager - but they didn't, are still together, and my mother says she has never been happier.
when do you know if you should stop trying or not? i just can't accept that we have such a good thing so let's not bother trying. if our relationship had problems it would be easier to accept.
As for your realtionship, I do not know, I don't have the answer. The two of you do. Have a heart-to-heart, and ask the questions that you don't want to know the answers, such as "Is there someone else?" Start with a serious talk and go from there. There is not going to be a "right time" so I'd just dive in.
my question now (to everyone of course) is that since currently we are "riding it out" how should i act? as if nothing is wrong? give him more space? be more attentive?
I hope that you can work it out with him! Let us know!