I watched my husband move out this morning...i feel numb. Hopefully you find some comfort here. Hugs...

If you could name the top 2 things wrong in your marriage would it be Lack of romance? Lack of Intimacy?.How long have you known him and then how long have you been married?Was counseling attempted?Maybe he has some deep rooted issues.If he has not cheated and it is just intimacy issues not sure that
warrants a kick out and D request,Trust me when I say it can be frustrating -yes
but I have come to realize that everything viewed on the surface of your
marriage coming from your perspective might be distorted because his lack
of intimacy,love affection may not be to intentionally hurt you but the root
of this thing and the seeds that germinated into your lives may be from an origin that has nothing to do with you.If you have tried counseling-not
all counselors are the same and you may have change them,Sending you
positive vibes and peaceful energy- hoping that you can both come to
a place of transparency and honesty. Be gentle and ask the universe to assist
you in your temperament,in your attitude and keeping your heart resilient
until all your i are dotted and your t crossed.

wow that was moving. i see your point quite clearly, i understand your feelings to . sort have done a very similar act myself. you deeply love this person, but had to say good bye because they wouldnt listen to your warnings , something had to give. understand how you feel, i felt love for her, loved her deeply, but i couldnt take what seemed a lack of caring, god, it made me sad, because being connected i could feel her pain. then i felt so guilty like some how i was partly to blame. but understand they were warned and refuse to listen, even tho you feel bad now, what more could you have done? cant live that way, maybe it was time to move on.

what bothered me most was her lack of communication. thats a must to a healthy relationship. when it breaks down intimacy and love follows it. when they cant say whats on their minds or even a i love you, love suffers dearly, god thats what i went thru, thats why i moved on.

To Lostloner42 - You’re feelings of abandonment from your husband mimic my wife’s. Your anger too. But she moved beyond that to a worse place - complacency, lack of caring - born out of frustration. Ending the marriage is a huge step. My wife asked why I worked to change after so many years. All I could tell her was “you finally hit me in the head with a big enough 2x4 lumber that I finally got it.” It’s true but too late after she had checked out emotionally. Your anger and frustration is awful and I feel for you. But on the flip side you still feel and your heart hurts. That’s something to work from. Good luck to you both.

I am so sorry you are going through this. I went through a separation before and it was very painful. I hope that things will improve soon. I honestly hope that your marriage can be restored, because I know that people do change and communication skills can be learned. A great help to me during that hard time in my life was finding a wonderful counselor who helped me communicate better as well as focus on problem areas in my life. Hang in there!

I understand where you're coming from. My husband is a terrible communicator and gives me zero affection. His way of getting my attention is like a child. It's almost like he's picking on me. He does things he knows annoy me even though I have asked him not to numerous times.
Our sex life is almost nonexistent, and we've only been married 3 & a half years! It's crazy. We go months without it. Definitely not a healthy relationship. In other ways things are good. I mean he is a great man and would do anything for me (except things like hang hooks on the wall or other small tasks, takes weeks/months of asking that eventually turns into me being HIGHLY annoyed).
Was he always the way you described or was he romantic etc in the beginning?
It seems every relationship I have ever had they start of wonderful and then turn into something else.
I feel like I have two choices - accept him for who he is and feel lonely and undesirable because he is my friend, or leave him and give up on love altogether. Because it seems hopeless. I pushed away most of the guys I dated after my divorce in 2009 because of my BP (when I turned into a raving lunatic while drinking).
I honestly think some men are completely clueless when it comes to love and affection. They aren't doing it on purpose. But I understand exactly what you mean when you said you had arguments over it. We have countless times. Instead of trying to make an effort they take offense to us telling them what we need and say things "I can never do anything right" "you're never happy" etc. If your husband would tell you how happy and close to you he'd feel if you kissed him hello and goodbye everyday (for example) wouldn't you do it?
I honestly just don't get it. The things we need when it comes to love and relationships (at least in my case) is not anything difficult.
I hope everything works out for you xo