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I have just found out that I may have cancer. I have accepted that God may call me to His kingdom soon. I fear that I will die alone, as my family is slowly being ripped away from me.
My oldest granddaughter, who is a cruel girl who hates me for no reason other than her deceased mother poisoning her against me, took custody of her four year old little sister when their mother died and made her say such awful things about me to get a restraining order against me and my husband for both of them so I could not see them any more. Then she started poisoning my middle granddaughter, who is her teenaged cousin, and her mental health went so terribly bad and she started hurting herself, drinking and spending time with people of bad influence. Then one day she went crazy and went to the police to claim horrible things about my son and his wife, and about me too! Now child services took her away from them and gave my oldest granddaughter custody! None of my granddaughters speak to me or my husband or my son any more and it is devastating. I believe she is a terrible influence on them, she has a bad lifestyle and has told them to turn their backs on their family who loves them. But I do still love her, and my other granddaughters, and it pains me to not see them.
I have my husband, but he spends more and more time away from me. My son and daughter-in-law are busy with the legal troubles brought up by his daughter. My grandson is busy getting ready for his sweetheart to have a baby I may never meet. All I have is God, and I pray to Him everyday that He will deliver my granddaughters back to me, that they will see sense and forget their cruelty.
I've learned that we can't control how others feel about us. We can only control how we feel about ourselves.
It seems like there are many difficult dynamics in personality, life choices, and opinions in your family. I think right now you need to leave the drama where it is. It's not your job to try to clean up everyone's feelings, dysfunctions, or misunderstandings.
Fighting cancer is your main focus now. To learn to take care of yourself minus everyone's influence n issues.
I think once we start changing... the way we think, react, carry ourselves... others around us will notice.
Then they may want to change or create a different dynamic with us.
All the best in your journey and sending you light n love.
1. You don't know you HAVE cancer.
2. If you DO, cancer is no longer an automatic death sentence.
Address your doctors over the cancer issue. They will lead you.
I am sorry for all of this. I can imagine how much stress and pain you endure.