Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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Snowman112 04/25/2017

I'm 19...I had OCD for 6 years , my boyfriend left me , i have inner fears and hard depression , injure myself many times , and committed suicide a lot ... Im not so bad ...im clever enough ...befor my OCD im my school i was so famous because of my lessons my father and my older sister are doctor ...i wanted to b doctor like them ..i wanted to live my life ..but why everything i wanted in life were ruined ..my family my friend don't have enough time for me ...even my boyfriends were played for me and then they left after 2 or 3 month ...im so alone , i wanred to be happy in life ...but i Don't have any motivation .. tired of living

Thanks for reading this and really sorry for my bad English

bridgie101 04/25/2017

I think you need to stop committing suicide because that just pisses people off after the first time. Same with self harm. Nobody says it but the reality is it just really annoys people and makes them despise and avoid you. (Apart from your mother who probably cries herself to sleep at night over you). You stop being someone they spend their fun time with. People don't spend their free time with someone who makes them angry just to look at them.

So stop. Right now you have to live this down, that could take some months. Just stop trying to gain any attention or care from friends and family: you need it from a professional. When it comes to your social interaction, carry your own weight alone (well, with help on the sidelines from your counsellor). Grit your teeth and fight your way through your demons. Work out what it takes for you to carry you. Show your social contacts that you have courage, and you will gain their respect - and when you have respect you will have invites and time spent with them. You will also gain self-respect which is a strong ally against depression and despair.

So on a practical level, you need a doctor, you need medication, and you need counselling. FIGHT for those things. Fight to get them! Talk to your mother, day after day, till you get them! Be a pain in the neck about it till you get it.

Remember daily that this is a short period of your life. Also: so you thought you would be a doctor. and now you are not going to be a doctor. Time to start thinking about some other career then. Talk to your guidance counsellor at school. your life isn't dependent upon being a doctor. That was an idea you had, but it didn't take account of the facts so just let it go. Do something else.

Snowman112 04/25/2017

Actually I graduated from school early cause i told i was clever , but i have lot of psychologist friends ..i do like your words
Im not so close to my mom but im sure she cried
Thanks for your words ...this is the first time in my life that someone help me

sharaninmd 04/25/2017

As Bridgie101 stated, you need to stop committing suicide and doing self harm to yourself. You need to see a psychiatrist who may recommend medication and/or therapy. Talk to your mother about getting you some help. Once you start feeling better about yourself, your relationships will get better.

Tiff123 04/27/2017

Hello. I understand things are tough right now, but you are able to be the person you want to be. Your happiness is not determine by other people. It is up to you to move forward and make a change. Have thought about talking to a licensed counselor? Praying for you.

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