I try to not think about it too hard. Since I lost my last real job I've barely left the house, except to apply to more jobs, for about a year. I quit seeing most of my friends or going places. I don't act, dress, or do most of the things I used to....and I feel like I really lost myself. But the best way to start is to just be. Just be you like no one is looking or judging. Also, we all change as we grow, so we might be totally different now when we catch up to ourselves and it's all good. Because no matter what we do or where we go, we are ourselves.

I know that I'm me it just doesn't feel like it.

I don't know.

but keep trying.

I understand your struggle, I've been trying to figure out who i really am since the last tiem I saw my therapist about a year ago she asked. Course I was like i know who I am. But the more I think about the less sure I am about my answer. Am I me? or am I what everyone wants me to be in combanation? Either way, I hope your quest is a smooth one.

I have been working on trying to figure out I am really am now too. My therapist made a comment about "being lucky" because how many people actually get to recreate who they are?

I wish I could tell u.

I'm not sure if i am trying to find myself or if I've just been busy making myself fit the idea others have of me.

I wish I could figure it out. I hope u find answers for yourself.

One thing I learned through therapy and from my ex is to stop trying to be me and just be me. Not to focus so much on trying to figure it out and let Me come out on it's own. It's not quite as easy as it sounds, but it is incredibly worth it.

I've been working on that a long time but I have a few key things that have helped me. Be around only the people that are true to you for you, do things that you really enjoy, trust your gut. These help me find my way and make you feel good.

Poor angel. If we knew that none of us would need therapy. Hugs. I know just how you feel. But once you find it...Do NOT let it go. Michele.

You are the person who reads books because you enjoy them - not because they are the latest thing. You are the person who likes autumn leaves or snow or sunshine because you enjoy the feelings that they bring. You are the person who wears a particular colour or clothing because you like it/them - not because others are wearing them. You are the person who likes a particular ice cream flavour, who chooses what friends you want. You are the person who stays up late or snuggles under the covers early because you can. You are the person who decides how you want your hair - each and every day. You are a very special person who is an individual and a real asset to this sad and tired old world. Hugs, Viv

I echo hopeful and vivienne

I agree with Hopeful. You have to just "be" then you can be you. The harder you try to be someone, the further away from being yourself you are! WOW That was confusing.

Just be who you are and you'll discover the true you!

The other day I found a scrap book I had made for my daughter, it had my degrees, certificates, things I had accomplished and felt proud of, figure when she gets to be my age, and I am gone, she might be interested. Truthfully, I didn't even recognize the person I was reading, had forgotten I had even made the book. Since my last major bout with depression, I seem to have forgotten who I am, was or will be. So, I understand how you feel.Maybe, God had me make the scrap book for that reason, I don't know. Funny, I like the me I portrayed in the scrap book, I just dont know how to get back to that point. However, I would suggest making a scrap book of all your accomplishment, the things that make you happy, sad, whatever, pictures of friends, little comments about them. You may just surprise yourself one day when all is dark and bleak. It may not cure you, but it helps, we tend to forget the good things in life and focus on the bad, especially in bouts of depression. Who knows, you may even find that you like who you are,and what you stand for.