Sounds like you two were broken up before the beer/sister in law incident, I know how hard it is to love a depressed person, he must have been really hurting.

It's hard to deal with abuse, sorry you've had to suffer so much, but you don't have to hide it. You can talk to a therapist to try to work through some of your issues. It's gonna talk some time and hard work on your part, but you can do it. After all, what's the choice? Remaining in the same pain you're in, or letting it get worse and ruin future relationships too? Time to get help and possibly get on meds. I wish you the best of luck - Big Hugs

Hugs for you.

I can relate to this in many ways . Lots of great people here to get support from.

The having to hide what is going on and feeling totally unfix able ,and broken.

i am just woundering how much you have invested in the relationship and how much he has invested inthe relationship up untill thei betreil because isent that what it feels like ..............all relation ships go through ups and dowens ..............and you said it your self that things were not in the best shape the depreshion was talking its toll and i am woundreing if you were seeing someone for that ...............and not wanting sex or to clean your self witch i must confess i am having a hard time with now ...............i went through that with my husband but i didnt see the worning sings at least i didnt think they were so bad and i went to .visit my sisters out of province for my sister who lost her husband we could only aford one flight and had no ware to put out dog could not aford to have him borded and realy didnt want that for him.so my husband stayed home ..............i was thinking a lok about him while i was gone and i relized he was depresed so i was going to take an earler flight home but my sisters and parents wanted me to stay so i stayed big mistake ..............he twice atemter to sleep with my sister back home after they had been drinking ................i was so upset but i started thinking is this worth runing our whole maridge for nothing realy hapened and even if it did was it worth 30 years of maridge so we had some heated talkes i even made him go in to my doctors and tell him what he did and he knowes if he ever does eneything else he is gone and so far so good but he hased goten depresed again i pay atention to that ...............so why am i telling you all of this my family wanted me to dump him just like that ..........just so you know you dont have to lisen to family and frends you can make up your owen mind if this relation ship is worth working on but he must know there are cnocquencies ................................i realy feel for you ....please take care of your self...........and think about this all befor you make your disission .....................god bless i will keep you in my prayers