Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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angelbabysnowwings 07/31/2015

so tired of feeling empty, alone, my spirit is broken , my heart is shattered, This last relationship took everything from me..... How do you break the cycle of abuse . This is the third one.... nothing to show but tears and pain...... I wish he never would have left.... It was just words he said maybe I could have gotten over it..... How do you let go of someone when you love him so much???? Im sure I provoked it..... Maybe I just need to pray more. Give it to God but I still feel like i need him....

gramybear 07/31/2015

I don't want to say anything to hurt you so I hope I don't do that. The way you break the cycle is to learn more about the person you are going to spend a lot of time with. I don't know if you are a member of the abuse site, but I really wish you would join that group and I feel you will see a lot of your patterns, and how to break yourself free from them. Are you in love with this guy, or do you just love him? Of do you feel that you aren't good enough for anyone else? I hope you don't feel that way because you ARE good enough for someone who will treat you like a lady. Don't start blaming yourself for the bad behavior of someone who is abusive. That is the worse mistake you can make and that is to take the blame for this man who is obviously controlling and wants you to feel that everything that goes wrong in the relationship is your fault. I have two words to say to that...B.S.!!
Please, promise me you will find the abuse site and join and read what others have gone through, are still going through, and what many have done to turn their lives around and finally have realized they matter!!! And you MATTER!! I collect and share a lot of quotes and I found a couple for you.

1. I choose solitude over cold kisses. If it isn't love--it's poison.

2. One of the hardest things to do in life, is letting go of what you thought was real.

3. You should not have to rip yourself into pieces to make others feel whole.
Hugs Gramybear

eshaw 08/01/2015

I've struggled with an abusive relationship in the past too. I recommend getting the book, "Women who love too much". I don't know who the author is but I read it when I was being abused by my ex-husband and it really helped me understand why I was allowing him to treat me so poorly, and why I felt I didn't deserve any better. I hope you read it, its a great book. Find your power, your voice, you deserve to be treated with love and respect. I'm sorry you've experienced so much pain and abuse in your relationship. Its not your fault. You must have a really big heart. But its time to take care of you! Hugs!

jkj68 08/01/2015

Gramybear and eshaw are very wise women. You do NOT deserve that. And there is a difference between loving and being IN LOVE. Joining the abuse site is a great idea. There is great advice and wisdom there. Please, respect yourself first.

Prayers for you,
Julie

muskrattiger 08/01/2015

no one deserves to be abused ..no mater what they do or say ......there for you did not provok it ......it is good that you came to vent ...you are not alone ....take very good care of you're self ....know you are worthy of love and tenderness .....I will keep you in my prayers ...God bless

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