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Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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PJD 09/20/2017

I am 61 years old, my mother and sister were killed when I was 11, my father was alcoholic and abusive. I have a husband that is disabled, about all he can do is lay in bed, take the dog out to potty, and watch tv. I work full time, take care of the bills, run our rental property, have a 15 room house to clean, and all the other house hold chores. If God ended the world today, I would be thrilled to go to heave to see my mom again. I am tired of being tired, I have my own health problems, infact I am on a heart monitor as we speak, trying to lose weight and I cant, I cant eat anything with salt, cant have artificial sweeteners, and my job is sedetary. Some times I feel like I am at my wits end, and I have no freaking friends where I live. We moved in with my brother to share his house because it is so big, sold everything we had to move here. So sometimes I just feel like I need to sit and have a good cry, but I dont have the time, I have to meet my work productivity,

I forgot to mention, I work from home, which is nice I can be here for my hubby, but at the same time, because he is so dependent on me. I have no me time, except when he is asleep and I am in front of the computer working, oh did I mention I work about 50+ hours a week. On top of laundry, cleaning, grocery shopping and running my husband to do his errands and dr appts because he no longer drives. All my pto time goes for Dr appts,

Lets just say, if the second coming of Christ is going to happen, I wish he would hurry, I am so ready to go be with my mom.

euniceps 09/20/2017

I can feel your frustration with life; however, you can help yourself perhaps by medication and counseling by a mental-health professional and couple that with exercise that releases chemicals that can lift your mood, increase your energy. Also please don’t overlook your spiritual needs: Pour out your heart to God in prayer…it can help calm you. Philippians 4:6,7. There is light at the end of the tunnel.

Gladdmatt 09/20/2017

Wow, you deal with so much on so many levels. I don't see how you do it. I agree with euniceps. I'd add that when you are in a better, more stable mood you might try to see if there are ways you can lessen your daily burdens. May God bless your day and bring you peace.

Nev 09/20/2017

I can see you have many responsibilities, but maybe you can get medical help, therapy, because sometimes we don't know what is the best thing we should do to take care of ourselves. And a doctor could help, help you to look at your life and maybe find solutions. I truly wish things get better for you and that you feel better.

tmpleo 09/20/2017

You clearly have a lot on your plate and I commend you for that. I think that a lot of your depression is coming from frustration. I think it would be beneficial for you to seek some professional help. Talking to a therapist could really help! I also think that you need to take a little time to yourself. I know it may seem hard with all of your responsibilities between work, house keeping, and care taking for your husband, but even if its 30 mins. out of everyday. Take a walk, go outside and do some deep breathing exercises, try to clear your mind. It might help. And I hope you know your mom and sister are both with you every single day! I hope this helped. Xoxo

WanderingVet 09/20/2017

I can easily understand your feelings. I would say you ARE overloaded. To put it in the simplest of terms ... need to UNload some things OR attain some help. So simple, I am sure you know that .. just pointing out the problem and the most obvious solution(s). I hope you can pare down the load or get some help .... or both. You are a saintly person. VERY, VERY noble.

sharaninmd 09/20/2017

It is obvious that you are overwhelmed and on overload. You need to take of yourself so that you can feel better an be there for your husband. I think you would benefit by seeing a psychiatrist who can evaluate and determine if you need medication. They can refer you to a therapist who could really help you through this. Since your house is so large and you don't have much time to clean, maybe you could hire a cleaning service to come in however often you choose. You could hire someone to come in for a couple hours to be there for your husband while you are out doing shopping or something for yourself. If possible maybe you could cut down the amount of time you work. I hope you feel better and that things will improve for you.

PJD 09/21/2017

Thank you all so much. yesterday I was not able to work, could not get into my systems, wound up having a meltdown. You all are so right, I am feeling over whelmed, I think I am going to request to go to 32 hours and/or intermittent fmla. I just feel I can not do it all on my own anymore. My husband is going to have hip replacements and when he has his surgery I am going to request to speak to a social worker or patient advocate and see what options we have.

WanderingVet 09/21/2017

>>I can not do it all on

I don't think so either. Good luck on getting things improved. There is always 'a way'.

scandalousbeauty 09/21/2017

To say you have a lot on your plate is a understatement. I am so sorry that your mother and sister were both killed when you were at such a young age. Then to be raised by a alcoholic and abusive father. That was so unfair. It sounds like things haven't gotten much better. It's not your fault or your husband's fault that he became disabled but honey you have to cry or write or talk to a therapist. You need to get out all of these pent up emotions and need a good cry. It shines through that you are a very strong individual and have such a caring heart. You should try to squeeze in some alone time for yourself whenever you can. You are pushing yourself too hard. I am sorry about your health problems. Golly you are just so overwhelmed. My heart goes out to you sweetness.

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