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Its getting better and worse at the same time

BluAngel2
BluAngel2
Me and my family are getting ready to move. While that prospect excites me, knowing that I am about to pack up everything that my ex gave me haunts me.

I still love him, yes, and I am slowly getting over it, but I don't want to pack all of his stuff up knowing that as soon as we get to the new house, I am going to unpack it and put it away.

My heart won't let me throw this stuff away because I can't do it. But I don't want to keep it in boxes either....and HE is NOT getting it back! Its all mine....but I just don't know what to do about it...

Maybe I am confusing but I just don't know....
deleted_user
deleted_user
It is a good thing that your heart rules your head rather than vice versa. I would not give his stuff back either, other than in an urn, burn it, and then send him a nice unexpected present, from YOU to HIM.
BluAngel2
BluAngel2
well seeeeee about that....its like I NEED to keep his stuff with me....just as a reminder of all the fun we had and what we lost, and everything. He is still my best friend...
deleted_user
deleted_user
You have to complete the broken link whether he is your best friend or not. Holding on to memories will only hinder your future happiness with another, hinder in the time to find I mean.

There is a good reason why your relationship broke down, and good reason means healthy reason, you both came to the same conclusion, you were not a compatible couple afterall. Move on, and swifty, you are wasting precious potential happier times by not doing so.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I too struggle to move on from an ex, I can't make any suggestions on making it better besides trying to remember why he became an ex in the first place..Hold onto the pieces as happier times yes.

You will be able to do it!
ilovebacon
ilovebacon
I agree with moving on. Most of the time a relationship breakup is due to incompatibility on both sides, not just one side - so you are not all to blame and neither is he. This also means that you just don't make a good couple at this point in your lives. Doesn't mean you can't still love him, it just means not to torture yourself with guilt or thoughts of getting back together. Let it go and let yourself heal (easier said than done), remember the good stuff and learn from the bad.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I found this link and info yesterday for a Museum of Broken Relationships - quite interesting and funny/fun at the same time: http://new.brokenships.com/en/about

http://www.nytimes.com/2010/02/15/arts/design/15broken.html?_r=2

http://www.bing.com/search?q=Museum+of+Broken+Relationships%2c+Zagreb%2c+Croatia&FORM=TREDIT

I'm thinking of donating some of those relics from my broken relationship because I also had a rough time of letting go and throwing away the letters, cards, and pictures. At one time, I had wanted to box up certain things he had given me and send it to him all wrapped up pretty for his birthday. I was going to write notes on it - like for the watch he gave me "You wasted my time for the last time" or for the perfume "Scent of a damn liar/cheater" - but my friend told me that would just be crazy to do that. My humor is more sarcastic than others.