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I never had a good relationship with my stepson. I hated my mother in law and she hated me because I did not fall in line the way the rest of her family did. I was raised with a strict morale code instilled into every fiber of my being. When my stepson was 7 years old I slapped him on the leg and left a mark. It was over something really stupid and I realized that and appoligized. From that day forward my mother in law used that as ammunition, she could bring up when regaurding what punishment to the boy should get for certain actions made. She believed in unenforced punishments no matter what he had done. I lost my child due to some of the lies he told about me. But I could not punish him. He was in my house free to do or say what ever he wanted.1 time he even called the police because I was making him clean his room. I finally kicked him out and told them all that if I cant enforce rules at my house he could not stay. The extended family feel as I do and support me. I don't know what I would do if it wasn't for them. I told them that he was going to hurt them 1 day because of the way they treat him like he can do no wrong, If I only Knew it would tear the herar out of all.
He did the unthinkable, abuse to a child. It make me want to throw up. It has hit the whole family up. I am still considered family to my wifes extended family and the love me. The mother of the child told me that she new that it wasn't my fault. She hates my mother in law and step son more than I do.
I can only say that I try to be a positive influence on the little girls life. She used to come to me and give me the biggest hug, now she wont even come near me. He took away the trust she had for me and that breaks my heart. She lost the love she had for uncle Drew and I am in tears.
It is my fault for letting this happen, But it was something I could not comprehend.
He did the unthinkable, abuse to a child. It make me want to throw up. It has hit the whole family up. I am still considered family to my wifes extended family and the love me. The mother of the child told me that she new that it wasn't my fault. She hates my mother in law and step son more than I do.
I can only say that I try to be a positive influence on the little girls life. She used to come to me and give me the biggest hug, now she wont even come near me. He took away the trust she had for me and that breaks my heart. She lost the love she had for uncle Drew and I am in tears.
It is my fault for letting this happen, But it was something I could not comprehend.
It is very normal to be angry and think that you should have done something, that you could have done something. But that is not true.
And now you pay the price for his crime. But as time passes your niece will learn to focus her anger on him, and she will learn to trust you once more.
But it will take time.
Lots of time.
Vent as you need; people who know you will understand. Like the saying: those who matter don't mind, and those who mind don't matter!
Do what is right for you, but keep you safe!
none of this is your fault! You are hurting. and yes, posts about child abuse are going to trigger you. Posts about suicide trigger me. I think there are alot of posts about different things that trigger members here. That is why I don't reply on posts about suicide. It's not that I don't care or have compassion or empathy, I just can't comment. What has happened in yoru family, just happened recently.. very recently. You are angry. You are hurting . there are so many facets to what all has happened.
If you need to take a break, then okay. I think the best thing is for you to just try to avoid posts that trigger you right now. You are such a kind soul.... and I know that the person you apologized to ( on here ) won't be upset at you.. She is hurting too and understandably so. She isn't going to hold anything against you.
Listen to Pepperman . he's a smart man.
Please stop beating yourself up. you know I luv u.
HUGS... HUGE HUGE .. xoxo
Me.
Your ex MIL is probably one who uses dogma as a means of control. Don't, under any circumstances give into that guilt.
Secondly, this instance was ONE instance. You apologized. Just hink of what parents used to od to their children. My husband, who is 43, was whipped as a child with a belt. Back then, see,the use of a belt was not consdered abuse. So, compared to this, what you did was not hardly anything. You made one small mistake.
I have read this and I understand it more now. All I can say is that you cannot control what others think.
As a grown up, I cannot go back and get the reassurances that I did as a child. When something hurtful happens, I have to just "sit there" and take it...regardless of the PTSD. It is as if society wants us to jut keep on and that whatever happens to us in childhood--well "tough." I hate that. So when something hurtful happens, all that we can say as adults is that we have to move on.
BUT I do know how you feel and I am very sorry that this happened to you.
All I can say is that DS is a wonderful place and if you have to keep this as a place of reguge then do so.
I've decided, and I know that this is mean, but normal people are idiots and I shut them out. I can't take their b.s. anymore.
Hugs to you,
CH