Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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Keira 05/28/2017

Good morning. So I've been feeling very lonely lately and it has gotten to a point where I feel like everyone's just leaving slowly out of my life. Maybe I've pushed them there I don't know. But the main problem is my relationship and friendships. I don't have much friends just one I talk to on a regular basis. I can't just be friends with anyone it's hard. I don't know if they'll leave, talk about me etc so I just don't associate with persons and being around a lot of personal statement make me so uncomfortable and stressed. My boyfriend and I have been OK for a few weeks now and then all of sudden because of stuff we both have to deal with and it's a lot in a short period of time he's telling me he's tired from work, he can't use his phone at work that much and when you go home you're still making excuses. I understand tiredness but if you've gotten a period of time to rest then why is that an excuse and you're tired to talk to me but can talk with family. How damn ironic. It Pisses me off and then he gonna say I don't how much he has going on???? My thing is I'll be understanding to a point but don't make excuses when you can do better and then expect me to understand I have feelings too and while I'm trying to be understanding and trying to make time for you who's being here for me, talking to me, doing stuff with me, reassuring me that everything is ok? I need that and that's always a problem. I have a ton of stuff going on, I'm rarely happy and because persons do not understand I seem like I'm crazy. I'm constantly depressed, it's rare of I got a week straight very happy and that's taking a toll on me and also not having much friends. And guess what just made it worst?that one friend lives in a different country from where I live. Thank you for reading I hope you have some positive feedback for me. I just need someone who understands how I feel that I can talk to.

Absorb 05/28/2017

Leaving out the relationship part (which seems to be the main thing) I understand what you're saying completely. You say everyone is leaving slowly out of your life. That does happen when you're depressed. You see everything differently, often in a negative way. And when it's negative, it's normally drawn back to yourself, by yourself. Which is why you say you feel as if its you pushing them away. But it's not always you that segregates yourself. It's just because you feel so deeply about your emotions, you're trying to protect yourself. So not talking to people or not sharing as much as you used to makes you feel like you're cutting them off. But just know it isn't your fault. It happens anyway. Even with the good things. And it's happening to everyone.

I realise that kinda didn't make sense. Sorry. I understand you not speaking to many people too. These days you think your pet can understand you. So you tend to just keep it just cuddles between you and them ha. Or maybe I'm just super paranoid. It's very hard to trust these days. When you find someone you think you can trust, you want to tell them everything, because you're struggling, you want feedback so much, you forget that you're scaring them away. SO even before you find that person, you deem yourself to being alone. Personally I think all the answers lay within us. Only we, the ones with the problems, the ones with the dark thoughts can help ourselves. We can only hear others stories to bring us comfort. Or to remind us that we have it easier.

Time will solve things between you and your lover. I'm sure he's struggling too. I think you did a good thing by sharing this though, and being on dailystrength. I hope it's helping you a little more every day <3

Jersey_of_Oz 05/28/2017

Love is hard. We let down those walls, and then feel betrayed and hurt. growth comes from these moments. We can only look ahead to the positives and try to move past the hurt.
We will be here to listen. please keep sharing.

sharaninmd 05/28/2017

When I was younger, I found it difficult to make friends due to my lack of self esteem and depression It was like putting up walls because I didn't know who I could trust. Over time I did make a lot of friends. but not everyone was a true friend. A true friend is someone who is there for you during the good and bad times. The others just end up being people you know. As far as you and your relationship with your boyfriend, I am sure over time things will work out. It hurts when you feel like you are the only one giving and not receiving anything in return. That's something you and your boyfriend might want to talk about.

Keira 05/28/2017

Thanks guys so much. It means a lot to get some feedback. I will definitely continue sharing as I think this is the only medium that will allow me to express what I feel more often because I feel like I'm annoying persons with how I feel.

SharaninMd: I do talk to a lot of people but that's all there is to it. I can tell just trust any and everyone because I'm so cautious of individuals. Maybe mostly because every good friend I have had always migrate to another country. And as it pertains to my boyfriend we do talk a lot but sometimes he just feels he cannot say how he feels among other things.

Jersey_of_Oz : thank you so much dear for being here ♡♡♡♡♡♡

Absorb : thank you and I do hope I'll feel better being here. Today was actually my first day. Such a warm comment. <3 <3

NiaLove 05/28/2017

If you ever wanna talk feel free to message me. I too am going through a lot a have no friends to talk to so I often come here. I hope all gets better. Thank you for your encouragement. Be strong !

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