You came to the right place. What is going on?

I am sorry you had a bad experience talking to someone, but there are people here that care.

Please reach out to others! We will listen!

Definitely reach out to any of us & we will try to help best to our ability.

That hurts. I'm sorry. Sounds like there are a lot of really good listeners here though.

Its just I had a fight with my partner and he is such a difficulrt person. They told me I sound like the bully but I dont feel like he listens. Who do i go to for help?

Aww…I’m sorry you’re hurting. While you haven’t shared much, if the problem with your partner is a big issue, I would suggest you seek the help of a counselor to sort things out between the two of you. Take care, Ingi!

Partners cam be....hard to deal with. Sometimes, your gonna clash. It is inevitable. But, how you react...that's What determines the outcome. I so understand. My husband has been on a tear lately. I am not sure where his issues are coming from. He will not talk about he's work day. He has no release valve. He releases at me. Brings on more feelings of not being wanted...of doing wrong...of being in the wrong. Now, I relate. Or, at least to what little I have heard of the situation.

I am sorry you are having issues.

As a 60 something year old man, perhaps I can provide a different point of view?

I have learned that men and women communicate differently. Not totally, like different languages, just different.

Perhaps you two need to work on how to talk first, and then delve into issues. Some people like to make long statements, others prefer short statements. Some prefer to build up to a point, others prefer to get right to the point.

Well he doesnt like to talk and like most men he doesnt like it when I point out whats wrong. I know men dont like to show weakness and I dont like to point out his flaws. He doesnt look into my eyes when we talk and I keep telling when you dont look at me I dont feel important.. Its difficult not to take it personality. His idea of communicating is just maybe sitting with me peacefully or going somewhere ...not necessarily saying anything. I cant handle it its the most irritating thing when u cant talk and discuss things and get deep. Ive just spent a weekend with my girlfriends so there is no excuse that i emotionally am needy ...i make a point to get some of my emotional needs met from my girlfriends. He is so weak at communicating and I find this not only frustrating but I find this irritating.

How often do you talk to him about serious stuff? Maybe you should just be his friend instead. If all the two of you do is argue, you can't expect him to get excited to be around you. Take a break and stop looking for all the negatives in him. That's not love.

I tell him positive things but he is v negative and doesnt praise me. So its v difficult to always encourage somebody when you yourself are not getting encouraged. I also feel that I am he initiator in the relationship and it feels more like the mothers rile. He is good with our child but im on this support group because while he is who he is I cannot change him and have to accept where he is. It is draining. Im trying to be positive but I would so love it if we were both having adult adult relationships.