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unabletocope
unabletocope

I know things are rough for me when I get to the emotional pain point that I have to ask for consolation. I have tried to do what we are all taught to do - try not to dwell on my situation but sometimes it gets to the point where I have to speak on it in order to continue with my life.


I have been feeling so alone, unheard, and unloved. For starters, I have been searching for a permanent job for a while now and nothing has come along. In addition, I have been dealing with caring for a parent with dementia. It is difficult to watch someone who used to do so much and constantly do for others get to the point where she can't do for herself. It also pains me to know that I will never develop the close relationship with her that I have craved my entire life. We never had a close relationship and now I will never have it because she has dementia. I knew it was going to be difficult to care for her but I never imagined how much of a mental and emotional toll it would take on me. The only thing I can think of is not to dwell on it but how can I not dwell on it. The desire is just as much a part of me as the color of my hair and the color of my eyes. It is what makes me, me. The emotional pain is deepened when I attempt to talk to others about how I am feeling but no one is able to relate to how I am feeling. It is unbelievable how strong this grip of emotional pain can have on an individual.


Certainly, there must be someone who can relate to how I am feeling or can sympathize with my situation. Right now, I need some words of comfort; some words of support; something that will keep me from feeling alone and unloved.

Restful
Restful
I’m very sorry about everything you are going through. It sounds like a very difficult situation, and I can relate to the desire to have a certain kind of relationship with your mother and never getting that opportunity. My mom does not have dementia, but does suffer from mental illness which makes it impossible to have a truly healthy relationship with her. Even though she may not fully realize it, at least at this point you can show your love for her by physically caring for her. Try not to let go of your own mental and physical health in the process though. You are obviously a wonderful person to take on such a demanding responsibility. Hang in there, and stay connected with others. Feel free to message me if you ever want to talk.
sharaninmd
sharaninmd
I am so sorry for what you are going through. I can relate to your relationship with your mother. My mother was an alcoholic and we never really had the kind of relationship that I longed for. She is deceased so I don't have any more opportunities. You are a very kind, loving and generous person to give this gift to you ill mother. In the moments that she is mentally with you, I am confident that she feels your love for her. It is very difficult to take on such as task as a caretaker. Please allow yourself some time away from your mother by getting someone to be with her while you treat yourself to some time you can spend with friends or do something you like to do. Do not feel guilty for leaving her for a short time. It will be a healthy thing to do for yourself. I wish you luck in finding a job. Message me if you ever want to talk. You are not alone here.
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