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about 2 years ago my nephew sexually abused my daughter. I immediatly called his mother who is my sister-in-law. she didnt do anything about it except yell at me.about a month later I found out her son was babysitting for another family member and asked about it and noone in the family believes my daughter. so I pressed charges. They started an investigation. They interviewed my daughter and she would not tell them anything.but when they interviewed my nephew he told them more things than I knew so they pressed charges. The judges order is for him to go to counseling, and he cant be alone with anyone for 2 years.all I wanted to do was protect my kids and the rest of the families kids from anymore abuse from him.now his family wants nothing to do with me and my kids.but my husband is ok. My husband has stood behind my daughter and me through it all.the in-laws think i have brainwashed my husband.because he would never do this to his family. Please tell if I made the right decision. My daughter will have to live with this the rest of her life. And I dont want her screwed up like I am.
You were absolutely right in your actions.
We protect our families. By speaking up and taking action, you also protected other children.
Some families are totally messed up. Loyalties to screwed up individuals. Individuals that need counselling, assistance and some times more. Glad you stopped him.
Now you have to insure that your daughter, and you and your husband get counselling.
Your priority is with them.
Let the rest sit on the sidelines in denial. They need time alone too. Hopefully they will use it productively to get their heads out of the sand and face reality.
Be well. So proud of you!
Kudos to you and your husband for standing up for her.
It is exactly this kind of reaction that lets generations of sexual abuse happen in families, it's sick and it never stops until someone with a backbone and some guts blows the whistle.
Of course they will hate you now, you've pulled the blanket off their heads and with the law becoming involved they can't go back into their comfortable comas as easily. God willing you will have helped save at least one child from further abuse at his hands. What I would be wondering in your place is who molested him and when. He didnt' just wake up one morning thinking it was o.k. to screw around wiht the little kids/girls in the family. Research has shown that nearly all who molest and start doing so at a young age were themselves the victem of sexual abuse. Usualy this is a family memeber, close friend of the family, priest/pastor of their church or teacher. Our children are very rarely abused by strangers.
Give it some thought, maybe there is a way you can relay this question on to whoever will be doing the counseling with him. If he was moelsted by another family member they are still out there and possibly molesting other children in the family even now.