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Trichster724
Trichster724

So I work full time doing security and part time at a restaurant. My roommate works with me at the restaurant. At my security job I work 47.5 hours a week and another 30 at the restaurant. My roommate works at only 3 nights a week so like 15 hours...I asked her to take my shift tonight cuz im dying for a break. My mental health is rapidly declining and she goes "nah I don't feel like working today..." WELL EXCUSE ME SOME OF US HAVE TO WORK FOR A LIVING INSTEAD OF MOOCHING OFF OUR PARENTS!! I'm beyond pissed!! If i have to work tonight I'm either going to kill myself or my roommate 

sharaninmd
sharaninmd
Is it possible for you to talk to the manager at the restaurant to see if you could cut back on your hours? You could remind them that you have a full time job and that you feel you should cut back your hours.
Trichster724
Trichster724
I told them that when i got the job like 3 weeks ago and they still haven't adjusted my schedule... i'm gonna threaten to just quit if they're gonna keep doing this to me
MrAffection
MrAffection
Ye I say let em know your gonna quit if they can't accommodate. Especially if they ha e people that don't even work half your hours that don't need a job (assuming)
Jkatso
Jkatso
As someone who has a lot of friends who are servers, I want to say i respect the service you give and do. Its not always an easy job especially with the bosses and customers, so good job! The other thing i want to say is you can do two things, one call off, they always have backup(even when they say they dont they really do) and two talk to the manager that respects you. The one whos willing to listen and let them know how its effecting you and what needs to change. Hope this helps!
-Capre Futura
bridgie101
bridgie101
It's not your flatmate's job to show up for your shifts when you have agreed to them. But you clearly won't be saving her when she needs a break. :D She's not your wife remember. just your flatmate.

As to working 80 hr weeks, I've done it. It certainly sorts the men from the boys - people either crash and burn, or get on a high.

You get tired, but you do get paid. You're moonlighting a whole job on top of your current job.

How come you have to work so many hours? How come one fulltime job is not enough? Are you saving for something, or are you living somewhere expensive or what?

At any rate your problems are bigger than a selfish flatmate I think. I hope you can find a cheaper place to live, better job, that sort of thing. 80 hrs a week is not funny when there's no end in sight.
Trichster724
Trichster724
bridgie101: It's not a permanent 80 hours a week. I know it's not her job to show up for my shifts but I've helped her out MULTIPLE times. If she had a good excuse for not being able to work I wouldn't have been mad but I was literally in tears begging her and she was like "nah i dont feel like it". She just has no empathy whatsoever.
I'm not saving up necessarily but I was out of work for 2 weeks cuz I needed surgery and I was living paycheck to paycheck before recently acquiring my fulltime job. I still have bills I need to catch up with but I did inform my manager 3 weeks ago that my schedule needed to change. I told him 3 nights a week at MAX but he still schedules me for 5 and its killing me.

Jkatso: I appreciate the support. Serving isn't easy but its made me great at multitasking and prioritizing my responsibilities. I've already talked to my manager about my availability change and he didn't listen so I'll definitely be sitting him down tonight when I go in to work...AGAIN lol
Thanks for all the support guys <3