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i havent stopped crying all day. i got into a fight with my fiance and we decided to take a mental break for a bit and its been a week and a half and all i can think about is how he doesnt love me and that i dont wanna be here and that this baby is going to have a messed up mom becuase i cant even hold my relationship let alone keep a baby and a man happy when i cant even be happy myslef and ughsdfhksjdfhgkdfkghsdkfghkdg
SomeGuy092
Please hang in there for your baby and your fiance. From what you typed, it sounds like you care about them a lot.
Cheese
Hello. I think you will do fine. Maybe think a bit if what you want is what you have? That may have to do a bit with your feelings?
Barnabas2017
If it's not too personal, was the fight an ongoing matter or something new? Oftentimes when it's a repeated incident, there's something under the fight that really needs to be addressed. My ex and I had many disagreements and after he left, I realized that I was just trying my best to please him so that he wouldn't leave. I was on eggshells thinking he didn't like this/or that about me. My biggest fear came true and he left. I went to counseling and she shared her profession opinion with me. #1, it was not my (job) to make him happy and that's what I turned the relationship into, "a job." And #2, if someone makes up their mind to leave, they will leave. A loving environment, naturally flows and works best when we can be ourselves. It appears you aren't fee to be yourself and he needed some space. I'm sure you're a good mom, a loving person and have great qualities and personality traits. May seeing a counselor would give you some insight before getting married about your past to help blend your lives together so that you can have a honest and healthy union. I discovered that I held on so tight because my birth father and my step-dad abandoned me. Look into the reasons why you believe you are going to fail. I hope you discover that it simply is NOT TRUE!
Barnabas2017
I just wanted to stop by and ask if you are okay? I hope you two were able to talk things over and ease some of your fears. You have what it takes to persevere! It is completely okay to seek counseling and talk through some of your feelings. If he is not up to going with you, please try a few sessions on your own to see if anything from your past is keeping you from moving forward as a mom and wife. Please don't give up beloved!
Lexeywautier1174
Thank you for all the comments:) things are slightly better:) I snuck a peak and found out we’re having a baby girl!! He’s doing more and more because now I don’t beg for attention. I just ignore him and then he’s all up my butt because I didn’t beg for that attention like he wanted:) I’ve been writing secret letter to him letting my feelings out and shits getting better:)
Barnabas2017
Congratulations beloved! Your daughter is going to be just fine! You are strong! Keep expressing yourself in hopes that things don't build up. This update is encouraging and thank you for letting us know.
Brexo
Give it time. Give him time. Marriage is a big deal maybe he is just overwhelmed. Men for some reason dont know how to express what they are feeling at times so dont think that he doesn't love you. Give him the time he asked for but yet still be there he will come back and talk when he is ready. He already chose you my love. There is nothing to worry about. Fights always happen but the great thing about love is that it conquers all.
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