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I was in love with a married guy for almost 2 years and the wife knew me as a friend. The guy came to stay with me for 5months in my house when his wife went away and she was aware of it. He begged me for accommodation when he was kicked out of his apartment after failing to pay rent.
Then when he moved out he asked me to move in with him in his new apartment. Then two weeks later his wife came back and stayed with us. She didn't suspect anything coz she thought we were just friends. Then recently we had a serious fight that involved the police and that's how she got to know that we were in love and that I just had an abortion. Now I'm homeless and the guy is saying u caused problems in my marriage I don't want u in my house I want to try and fix my marriage. When I moved in with him he begged me to stay with them coz they didn't have any furniture so he promised me i will be out after a month or two but it ended up being 3 months. He withdrew all my money from the bank coz I was trusting him and gave him my bank cards and pin numbers. Now I'm suffering. I'm waiting for our court date but he says I'm not paying back that money cause u wanted to break my marriage. They are back together and as stupid as I was, I'm heartbroken and left without money and all my furniture in his house. He played me.
I don't know wat kind of a man he is who would let a girlfriend stay in his house with his wife and kid. We would go out whole day and she could cook for us. Poor woman I feel for her but I'm also hurt and I know I was so stupid to fall for this man. How do I solve this. When I told him that my life us in your hand now if anything happens to me u are responsible he said I don't care just die and see if I care. He aso told my sister that even if I commit suicide he with feel any pain coz he hates me.
About all you can do now is to move forward, and avoid situations like this in the future. Please, by all means, remove him and her from your life. If he cheated on his wife with you, then odds are strong that even if he married you, he would ultimately cheat on you.
Secure your financial identity. If that means closing all credit cards, then do so. If you have evidence that he cheated on any arrangments you made, consider taking him to court. If there are any outstanding loans that he is part of then move to close them and sell what ever is involved. For example, if you are making payments on a car he has possession of, move to collect it, return it, and close the loan.
I am so sorry for all your pain,
Gentle hugs
Not a good idea to court married people.
He played you but you let him. You are going to have to take the responsibility for your own downfall because con artists cannot operate without the consent of their victims, and it sounds like he and his wife have a game they play that works for them both quite well. You bought into the dream he was selling without stepping back and saying 'how is this possible? See, the wife is not retarded. And you were a fool to think she was. She's in on the game.
Now: go get yourself a new home and some new furniture. Chalk this up to experience and be glad you didn't have his child or you'd have to deal with him for the next 2o yrs.
My last boyfriend cost me $35,000. So I've just been stung myself, and all I can say is welcome to the fml club. Here we are, we totally understand. Have a drink on me.