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angelite 05/10/2009

i was living with my boyfriend for 2 years to find out he had been cheating on me for at least the past year. he is now in a relationship with her, yet tries to still sleep with me. just moved and trying to start anew but it is hard and emotional.

keep getting fucked in the financial department. everytime i think i am starting to get ok something stupid happens that sets me back, the most recent is a bunch of overdraft fees on my bank account... excerpt from what i can see i never overdrafted until AFTER they applied those fees and they refuse to remove them saying there is no bank error. i have printed out my statements and i keep very meticulous track of all my bank withdrawals and i NEVER OVERDRAFTED. there are close to $500 in overdraft fees and now i can't pay my rent.

then someone who was one of my closest friends must be upset with me about something. i have no idea what though. i have been trying to call and text her for a week now with no reply, and even sent a text to ger boyfriend saying i was worried if she were ok... still no reply. i noticed just now they both have deleted me as a friend from social networking sites... but why? i have literally no idea what is up, and she was one of my closest friends. and she won't even speak with me.

i know this sounds like a big crybaby post and perhaps sounds like petty shit when it is all in writing, but i truly am feeling alone right now and just need some people to understand. i really don't know how much more i can take.

deleted_user 05/10/2009

Hugs sweetie, you have an awful lot on your plate at the moment. It does sound like youre pulling through though. It's good to vent, and sometimes just to let yourself feel sad and angry, just to get it out. You really have been wronged and I don't think your post is petty at all. keep faith in the fact that you are still going, still here.

angelite 05/10/2009

thank you glitter! i hesitate to come here lately b/c most i was close friends with are no longer active... it's weird to open up to new people. but thank you for taking notice and agreeing that i am not overreacting. :)

i just feel like i try so hard to be a good person and be good to others, so when these things keep happening to me i get angry and bitter and want to give up. and now with my friend ignoring me i feel more alone.

deleted_user 05/10/2009

sitting here tonight and this morning as the sun comes up wit the same situation killing me.... i am lucky in the respect that he has not hurt me in the finance department... as far as matters of the heart, he is off this weekend somewhere with her to celebrate his birthday. i was with this man the last 18 years of my life.... i am shattered... no one can help me..the pain is to great. the betrayal .... OMG how horrible it is!!! i am sorry.. trust me i know how you feel..... xxx sheila

deleted_user 05/10/2009

meant to say this.... DO NOT GIVE UP..........you can make it.. so can I..... we can.. lets do it!!!! we can !!!!

deleted_user 05/10/2009

It's horrible losing a friend,it'll take sometime to get over,but you will be ok.Unless you have sommet to apologise for.If not maybe accept these two are immature idiots,'us against the world' till we grow up,or split up mentality.In the Uk banks are starting to repay unjust charges,we have citizens advice bureau here,do you have anything similar over there?x

deleted_user 05/10/2009

Not a crybaby post dear....good for you for venting here and big hugs :)

deleted_user 05/10/2009

Losing a friend can be as horrible as breaking up with a significant other. This is not petty. It hurts, and I'm glad you came by here to let it out. I have been in the same situation and I know you will come out of this.

Kuno78 05/10/2009

I'm sorry that you are dealing with other people's nonsense, but you truly do not need cheaters and friends that won't even talk to you about how they feel in your life. They need to grow up. As for financial issues, i'm dealing with a lot of shit myself.

deleted_user 05/10/2009

Honey youve bitten off more than you can swallow. Your not overreacting.Let it all out, were here to listen and help if we can. You never alone when your here.

WanderingVet 05/10/2009

$500 in unjust overdraft fees would certainly upset me. So would losing a good friend without knowing why. These are troubling events.

As for the fees, .. what is the bank's argument? Either they are just or not, it would seem. Have you spoken face to face with a bank manager? It is the debate that would drive me nuts. Either you messed up and have to suffer them or they messed up and have to correct it .. either way, a resolution should be reached. I recommend you present face to face to a branch manager and get it settled once and for all.

If the EX is still trying to sleep with you, it is because you have elected to keep ties with him. To me, and EX is an EX and I'm done with 'em.

Good luck with all this. I can understand your consternation.

angelite 05/11/2009

thank you everyone for your support! i know when i posted this most people were still in bed, so i just now read all the replies.

i am so thankful there are good people in this world who are willing to help others if needed - and look - we are all strangers to one another. why can't the people in our lives be the same?

i received a long email from my friend basically telling me everything i have ever said or done to upset her - i had no idea. i would never intentionally hurt a friend, and how do i know if something is bothering her is she won't talk to me about it? this is really not what i need right now.. i need friends.

please keep me in your prayers everyone, and i will so the same.

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