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I thought I was doing okay

erlope12
erlope12

I thought that I could push through without talking about it, I thought it would be okay to just let it pass and not confide in anyone. That's always the person I've been: quiet, hardworking, eager to help others, an attentive listener. Uncomplaining. But it's starting to become so much harder now. I feel myself pushing away those around me and curling up into myself because it feels safer there, and less painful. I know this isolation isn't healthy, but I don't know who to reach out to anymore or even how to put it all into words. My body just aches all the time and I'm so exhausted, and everytime someone tells me to stop looking so depressed and bored, I do my best to lock it away inside myself. If someone has advice about breaking free from this isolation and the best steps to take to reach out to others, I would be very grateful. It helps even to think that maybe someone out there is listening, and can empathize with my experience. I'm trying everyday to find joy in the small, simple, beautiful things in my life, but I'm afraid it's becoming more difficult to identify them as the days continue. I hope that someday I can find and fully appreciate those little moments again, and feel the same as I did before all this began.


MochaShell
MochaShell
Going to therapy can help. It can also help to keep a gratitude journal and find something to be grateful for every day. It might be very small things at first and that is okay.
Sunshinegirl89
Sunshinegirl89
Hi, idk how much of my advice will be valuable, but I would say try to do little things to make yourself feel better. For example once in a while I like to dress up and do my makeup although I know I'm going no where, it just helps me to feel better and I take a few pics. You can pick up hobbies like working out even a dance workout if a traditional workout isn't your thing. There is so many things on YouTube for free. Learn a new trade now that we all have time. Cook some of your favorite things, experiment. They have this app called house party people like using to talk to their friends. I've used it 2-3x and so far so good. These are some things that work for me. Also prayer helps it's just sometimes mustering up the strength to pray. Avoid watching a listening to depressing things.
Annie616
Annie616
Hi, Great advice from Mochahell and Sunchinegirl8g. Here's my 2 cents for what it's worth. I know exactly how you feel. I'm a lot like you. I listen to everyone else, but don't say much about myself. I'd deal with depression myself and not let anyone know how I was feeling. It took a long time before I found the courage is to admit how I'm feeling and let myself feel those feelings, even have a pity party -- with a time limit. If someone I trust calls and asks how I am, instead of saying "fine", I tell them the truth. "I'm sad" or "I'm feeling depressed." That is what helps me the most and keeps me putting one foot in front of the other.
sponge42
sponge42
Isolation does make you feel like you are alone. YOU ARE NOT ALONE. I know many people, including myself, who have felt the isolated and a little depressed. However, I will tell you from experience the light comes from HOPE. Hope comes from doing the little things such as talking to people online, at your church, going for a walk, writing in your journal, reading inspiration books, serving and helping others, cooking/baking, and just appreciating the small things such as the weather. Set one goal to do something small per day, set the time you will do it and then do it. After you do it, celebrate that by sharing with others and just pattying yourself on the back. I don't know if you are a Christian but reading the Bible and praying or asking my friends to pray for me goes a long way when I feel tired and lost. I pray for deliverance of isolation and loneliness. I pray you receive an abundance of love, joy, and peace through the God. Smile each day and know you are loved, even if you don't feel it! YOU CAN DO THIS!