Get out with your kids, now. The sexual assault that happened to your child is unacceptable and completely wrong. Seek help from people in positions of power - power to help you. You need to be strong for your children’s sake - I know that’s hard - Impossible seeming - but you must act to protect - even if that means letting go of a secure situation. Is there a shelter you could go to? A group that could help? I’m sending you loving thoughts and prayers but it’s you that has to take the first step in securing a safe space for you and your children. Dear, I hope you find solace in those that can help. No one is ever alone - if they’re willing to ask for help. Take care.

Funny bc my first name is Solace... like legit. Yes we got out. We did everything was needed. The DNA matched who she accused my baby is so smart, & I believe he got 49 years in prison. My husband & I are suffering wishing we knew he was this foul.. I have started therapy & my 4 year old will be starting play therapy as well... I’m trying so hard to stay strong.. my heartaches because children are so innocent. His girl friend the one I paid to babysit the night failed me, god failed me, life failed me.. I don’t understand how it’s worth it anymore?

I think you said it best... Your kids need you right now. What happened was horrible beyond comprehension. Destroy what happened with love and kindness, by this you can heal your child. It will be hard but don't let what happened damage the love for your child.

Solace...I just read your post and my heart really goes out to you.

First off, I want to commend you for being one of those mothers that actually believes her child when she comes forth with reports of sexual abuse. So many children out there, have parents that don't want to believe, dismiss the kids, and then just let the abuse continue for years and years.

I want to commend you for getting the perpetrator arrested and sent to jail so he can never hurt your daughter again, or any other child. You are a hero and so is your daughter for being able to verbalize what happened!

You have had a tough life, and like most parents you want your kids to have it better than you did...which includes safety, love, and happiness.

It is not your fault this happened. It was the choice of this heinous man. The guilt must be unbearable nonetheless...and that will take therapy and some time to help you heal from it.

But your daughter needs you. She's only four. But they notice if you aren't smiling anymore...and if mommy is sad...or why are things different. We don't want her to internalize it.

Be strong as you can be...and remember that your little girl and your family...they need some healing time...which will include trying to keep things as normal as possible...laughter, playing games, reading together...being a close family unit.

You are their mother for a reason and your life has meaning. They need you. Suicide will not solve the problem...it will only devastate and divide your family further.

I think you are very brave...and you have had to be so strong...but you are doing everything right from what I read. Just let time help you heal, the professionals get you to a good place, and of course...pray.

Sending you light and love, and prayers for your children as well.

sadgirlmason,

I feel same as you. I had my innocence stolen as a child and life has been so shitty to me despite how much I try. This world is a very sad, sick, evil place. I try and live life but wish it could ALL be over and done with bcuz there seems to be no point.

I'm so sorry about what happened to ur precious child. Thankfully she has a mother who will help her thru this. She needs you.

Maybe some of us just do have crappy lives. But that doesn’t mean our children have to. My son went through all kinds of stuff as a kid. But he is pretty happy now. So if nothing else in this world has turned out the way I would have wished at least I know my kids are okay. They are both functioning adults now.. Trying my best at parenting kept me going through the years. If you don’t think your life is worth it then think of theirs. Because they could still have good lives.

Sad Girl Mason: You have come to the right place if you want to scream and rail about people that suk-balls. Things like this happen, why? IDK, really I don't.

Years ago there was a guy on here that diddled with his nephews. This guy actually wrote about it. BUT! I was so wrapped up in my stupid shit I missed it. Yes I thought what he was writing was strange but I din't know. The girls caught it but not me and then the law caught wind of it and Oregon has been feeding him since.

But if you want to let off steam then go right on ahead.

Couch surfing suks when one is on their own. I have to ask a question-have you checked charity/churches? Ok, then there is the state. Just look at the avenues that you have that are available.

ME? Secret story: Back on '08er'09? idk, but I went to the county to apply for food and there was 8 other than me to feed. The lady asked me why I was doing this(asking for food,) my answer was "Because the children cannot contract for themselves." Meaning the children were all underage as in...15 to 2?

Any way we made it, all nine of us and we made it through a year or two of scrounging, BUT we made it. So might I suggest checking avenues in that you are housed with your little ones and are not subject to a predator as a controlling interest on you and yours. What I am intimating is that you control who is in and out as it relates to the children.

Well I have aired enough baggage and believe me if I was to get on an airplane will all the baggage I have accumulated though the years they would have the TSA out by the curb directing me to a rail yard.

hope something in these words helps.

Your child is very young so every chance she will get over this with your support.
It is a terrible thing that I occurred but you must find a way to keep your eyes to the future. That does not mean you ignore the past but you just try to deal with what's in front of you now .

To help heal you and your little one, it is important to get counseling for both of you and to move forward and get justice, report him and take it to court, so you and your little one feel justified and like you can move on, if you don't he will do it to other little ones. Let your child know it was not their fault and what was done to them was very wrong, and that the bad man won't hurt anyone like that again.
Also, taking magnesium and ginseng help a lot with healing, they calm the mind body and spirit and get rid of sticky negative thoughts that loop around. They also help with anxiety and depression, a lot! B Complex is good to heal nerves too and give good energy.
Also, humor is healing, distract everyone by watching some funny movies, it doesn't help to dwell on the sorrow of what happened too much. Walks are good, getting out in nature is healing. I am so sorry this happened to you and to your child, and pray for healing and a better life from now on. You can't control what was done, but you do get to control what you do with it from here on out. Do what is best for you and your child.

Do whatever you have to do to get your child the needed therapy..

This will give you some motivation to keep On Truckin.

I just saw Kelley’s journal and there was a message from her ex husband - it said that she took her life this weekend

" I don’t know If i have the strength"

That's OKAY....because your kids don't need your "strength"...they just need "you"


It's so easy to get pulled down by reading horrible stories about what happens to children after abuse. But most of those stories are of kids who were not believed...yours will be the story of a child who IS believed....A Brave Story...that just needs you to be there.


My son wasn't sexually abused, and it's a long story. But I too struggled with blaming myself, blaming myself for what I missed and how I missed in protecting my son. It's a challenging thing to get past...but it CAN be done.

My son is 19 now. Barely an adult. What I can tell you...is that he needs me now as much, if not more than ever. I would never have wished what he went through on anyone, but it's made him a more compassionate person. It's helped make him a good person. But he needed my "being there"....to help get him there...

Big, big, big, big gentle hugs. What your child and you have been through is terrible. I care.

Patti