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I don't even know where to start or why its bothering me so much. My boss is out on maternity leave, and the two senior workers were left in charge. The thing is, she favors them so much. They sit around and slack and then make notes about how everyone else is fucking up. I saw a another note today, I'm not sure it was about me but I feel like it is. (They do this even when my boss is hear and one is related to her so its not like she's gonna get in trouble.)
There was something on it about breaks....taking vs not taking them. I did have an issue over the summer where I wasn't taking long enough breaks, but I have been very careful since to be sure I stay clocked out long enough. I also did take an extra long break this past week, for my great aunts funeral, but they knew about it. I also remind whoever I work with to take their breaks. So I'm not sure what this is about.
It also said something about eating breakfast 1st instead of working. We start work at 7 so its very common for staff to bring along something to eat. I open 3 times a week and only eat breakfast maybe 1-2 times. Last sat, when I opened with the girl who made the note, I came in early, made breakfast, then punched in and started working...but I did put my dishes in the sink so maybe she doesn't know I ate before I punched in?
It also said something on it about moving slowly and leaving difficult projects for other staff...last week, for example, I worked all day, when one of my closers came in at 3, he saw a project wasn't started yet and said he would do it. I didn't leave it for him, he offered. So Idk if this ones about me or not really. I do work, its been slow so its been a lot of cleaning/organizing projects but that doesn't bother me.
so I don't really know if this note was about me or not, but it bothers me because this isn't the first time I've seen notes like this (some are more obviously about me) and if they are about me, these 2 girls hardly ever work with me, I see them for maybe one shift a week so what do they know?!?! I've already decided there's not much to do about it but continue working my butt off as I have been, I also decided to not eat breakfast at work anymore. Everyone does it, but if its going to cause problems for me I won't do it anymore. If I don't eat before work I will just take an early lunch....the earliest I can go is 11 so I will just take advantage of that if need be. What worries me is I saw one of girls this am when I came in for my shift and she didn't say there were any problems with my work and I'd rather not wait for weeks then get yelled at.
Any other ideas?!
There was something on it about breaks....taking vs not taking them. I did have an issue over the summer where I wasn't taking long enough breaks, but I have been very careful since to be sure I stay clocked out long enough. I also did take an extra long break this past week, for my great aunts funeral, but they knew about it. I also remind whoever I work with to take their breaks. So I'm not sure what this is about.
It also said something about eating breakfast 1st instead of working. We start work at 7 so its very common for staff to bring along something to eat. I open 3 times a week and only eat breakfast maybe 1-2 times. Last sat, when I opened with the girl who made the note, I came in early, made breakfast, then punched in and started working...but I did put my dishes in the sink so maybe she doesn't know I ate before I punched in?
It also said something on it about moving slowly and leaving difficult projects for other staff...last week, for example, I worked all day, when one of my closers came in at 3, he saw a project wasn't started yet and said he would do it. I didn't leave it for him, he offered. So Idk if this ones about me or not really. I do work, its been slow so its been a lot of cleaning/organizing projects but that doesn't bother me.
so I don't really know if this note was about me or not, but it bothers me because this isn't the first time I've seen notes like this (some are more obviously about me) and if they are about me, these 2 girls hardly ever work with me, I see them for maybe one shift a week so what do they know?!?! I've already decided there's not much to do about it but continue working my butt off as I have been, I also decided to not eat breakfast at work anymore. Everyone does it, but if its going to cause problems for me I won't do it anymore. If I don't eat before work I will just take an early lunch....the earliest I can go is 11 so I will just take advantage of that if need be. What worries me is I saw one of girls this am when I came in for my shift and she didn't say there were any problems with my work and I'd rather not wait for weeks then get yelled at.
Any other ideas?!
DONT WORRY ABOUT IT.
WHAT WILL B WILL B.................
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I'm just trying to figure out how to both protect myself from getting in trouble, and maybe some thoughts about being less paranoid. I need this job. Not worrying about it isn't exactly helpful. These people could potentially get me into trouble, and if comes down to my word against theirs, my boss will back them, no doubt about it. :(
Jobs. They were out to get me cause of work comp claim. All my work started to be reviewed. Mistakes i could prove wasnt my fault i would copy why it was correct and make person sign off why i wasnt at fault. I found conflicting papers to support my case. They wouldnt update changes and give them out. Maybe they would tell night shift and not day shift. They would get really made when i would prove correctors wrong. They wouldnt tell me they were having meetings. I would be talked to a couple times a week. After awhile no one would sign off on my proof why it wasnt wrong. They made me take fmla leave. They were shocked when i told them i had to talk to my lawyer first. They fired me when i was out on medical leave. This was 1 week before i could apply for long term disability. They denied i was eligible for long term disability cause i was terminated before start. They refused to mail me disability form. I called my lawyer and all of a sudden i got disability forms next day ups.
I have to laugh when these idiot counselors tell you. Working makes you feel better. Haha. Bull. I felt like shit working with how they treat you. Only thing working does is give you money.
All you can do is do your job and make notes.
Sounds very much like a job I had...just didn't fit in and had few people I was friendly with...which is very not like me.
BUT...the only thing we can control is ourselves, and how we react to what happens to us. If these coworkers wanna be bitchy and sneaky, that's their bad, their karma. If it's to the point where the job is affecting you psychologically, look for a new one. It'll probably be slow going, seeing as the economy still sucks a fatty lol, but it doesn't hurt to keep an eye on the classifieds, in the paper and online.
Gentle hugs...
I'm not a stickler for following rules, but when it gets tough at the office, I do exactly as I am told. I buckle down and I follow every rule to the letter until the *stinky stupid obsessive compulsive weirdness* dies down.
Stay away from gossips and don't complain. Use DS and other support groups for your griping to stay safe. Journal. Make time for yourself outside of the office.
I guess too, know your rights. Document when you are taken advantage of and contact HR if any more "Circus crap" happens.
Yes, karma is amazing and normally, the toxic people get booted and the well meaning but slightly toxic people who just need a different enviroment get tranfserred.
If however, the environment gets worse, the work environment, then you will have to go somewhere else. I have a weak personality so I know that me telling you this doesn't make it any better.
We care and we are here to support you. Good luck and hugs, RIB