My husband also broke up with me. We were together for 26 years. It's such a big adjustment. It's been a year & a half now.
Personally I am not that interested in a new relationship. I want to make more female friends.
I think that people are attracted to happy people.
I want to learn to be happy on my own.
However if you are interested in dating you should try some online dating sites. There are a ton of single men out there. I hope you find that special someone. But more importantly I hope you learn to be okay alone. It's sure a process.

Manage your depression first and foremost. Understand that clinical depression is physical, not mental. The depression creates the thinking as a symptom. The thoughts are not real or at the very least distorted. Being happy when you have depression is physically impossible or at least very difficult. Again for emphasis, the thinking and lack of happiness is due to a PHYSICAL condition. Explore ways to treat it in your body. If you can manage fresh air exercise and sunshine that would be a good start. Calcium magnesium and zinc have worked for me in the past. If you have hardcore clinical depression, consider medication. When your body heals, your mind will follow. Heres a mantra for you "i am not who my depression tells me i am"

Life is horrible. If I learned anything in life, it's that. It seems like the earth is playing a trick on us! But you are strong than that. You have a voice! You have a soul! You have two arms, two legs, a brain,,,you have the power to stand up to life and fight it! Show life that it can't mess with you, and if it does, show it how you are not affected for it. The earth wants us to be depressed. It wants us to feel pain! Show it that you are stronger than that! Show it that you won't take the crap it throws at you! You are probably a strong beautiful women who deserves the world to love her! Remember, you can win this "game". Don't give up. Show persistence though all of this. Hope this helps :)

Are you seeing a doctor or a therapist for your depression? If not, talking with a therapist might benefit you. You want to get your depression under control before you become involved in a relationship. As for the guy who told you via text that he is getting married, I wouldn't waste my time on him. I think he would. just be using you. You don't deserve to be treated that way. When you are feeling better about yourself, things will look more clearer for you and you can decide whether or not to seek a relationship. You can also get involved in activities you like, take a class such as a painting or cooking class where you can meet new friends and not be so alone.

Thanks everyone. I am in regular therapy. I have a psychiatrist I work with for meds. I'm an introvert, but despite that I have "gotten myself out there." I have joined groups, participated in all kinds of activities, met lots of people, made some friends. I try to exercise. I take supplements. I've attended in person depression support groups. If I wait until I feel better I will likely be too old to enjoy life or dead. I've worked really hard at this and I'm exhausted.

It will take time to start over. Just know that your not alone! It may feel like it but we are all here for you and you have to focus on you not someone else.

Do you have an activity that you love doing? Have you tried to go out and do something new like a paint class or a cooking class? They have so many activities that can get you thinking about positive things and get you out around others that enjoy doing the same things you do.

It's not that you're not good enough, you just may not be selecting the right guy. You have to change you perspective about life and how you see yourself. You have to love you before you can expect someone else to love you. Those exs' are exs' for a reason, they felt the grass was greener on the other side to find that it has brown spots as well. It is their loss not yours. Don't settle for whatever comes your way, you have to know that you are valuable and that you are a good catch. Work on your self-esteem and self-worth, so that those type of men won't be attracted to you. If you are honest, I believe the ex-husband and ex-boyfriend have similar qualities. Change your confessions, because life and death is in the tongue. If you speak negative that is what you attract, speak positive and that is what you attract.