I have been totally freaked out many times, and I have learned that I simply need to take meds to stay on track. You very much need to get to the psychiatrist. It's nothing to be ashamed of. If you get caught stealing that will not look good in terms of keeping your daughter. See the dr., and if meds are prescribed take them, they will help enormously. It sounds like you are not enough in control of things at the moment to make important decisions like going back to your husband. When the meds kick in and you are calmer and happier, you can decide such things. If your daughter needs extra attention, you can figure out what to do again when you are calmer. May God bless you.

I have an appointment with a psychiatrist. Hiwever i am scared how much to tell them and could i be reported for shop lifting. I am so ashamed. Tjanks for your message

Depression is an illness, IF you look after your daughter, have a place to live, food, clothing, electricity, AND can give her attention, that is all they care about.
LET them help you, asking for time out is not a crime.
Mental abuse is a crime, I too have been down this path & wonder if I will ever stop feeling guilty, for not having the courage to leave. Take small steps

Has anyone seen a psychatrist? If you tell them that you have shop lofted and want to stop can they report you ?

They will help you ..

Will pray for you friend .. Just stay positive .. K

The psychiatrist can only help you if you are honest with them. When you see the doctor, if they recommend medication, take it and you will feel better. The doctor may recommend a counselor or a therapist. A therapist would be great for you to talk to and they can help you with what you are going through. In regard to getting back to your husband, think about how controlling and abusive he has been to you. Do you really want to go back into that type of environment for you and your daughter? The abuse would probably get worse and I know you don't want your child exposed to such unacceptable behavior.

If i tell a psychatrist about the shoplifting will they report me or will they gibe me help to stop this behaviour. I surpose when you have been in a 16 year controlling relationship fir so long you forget who you were before. I thiught i could be strong. I never wanted to need the marriage just have some space to stop the behaviour but it got worse. He has destroyed a whole family. Noone speaks to me anymore. We have a lot of skeltons innthe closet and he has exposed them all and after september the non mol finishes and he will start again. He seems to fordet that there is a beautiful little girl in tge middle of this who is heart broken. I want him back to stop anymire heartbreak for everyone espically my little girl. I libe with my Mum who is 75 and cant taje mucb mire I cany affird to mo e out as the rents are to high. I feel like i have failed my daughter in everyway possible

Thanks for your replies xx

A psychiatrist/psychologist is probably your best bet, as they are the ones who are educated in helping people like us. I don't believe they are allowed to report you for something such as shop listing because everything is confidential. I make sure that I stick to my appointments with my psych because the medication that I'm prescribed is so important in my life. I hope that everything works out for you and I hope that you find some guidance. Stay strong.

Don't be afraid to tell your therapist things. Therapists are not there to judge. He/she can help you with things that bother you. That said try not to steal. If caught things could get worse. I see a psych for meds. It took me several years to find someone. When down who has the courage to make the phone calls to find someone that is taking new patients etc. if you do though, life may be so much better. Just a little lifted off your shoulders can help. I also talk with a therapist from time to time when it gets too much for me. Negative self talk has a tremendous effect on me. I am pretty cruel and judge mental of myself. Hang in there. Life can be tricky to muddle through but the good times/days are worth it. If you get some help/meds/talk you may be surprised at how you look at yourself with new eyes. Others will see a difference. I hope you're well.

It helps to vent here. We are all here for the same reason. We all need a guiding hand to hold at times.

Also if your husband is controlling and abusive you may reconsider. You deserve love and happiness. It will come. It will come...

So tonight my mum said we will neber have a relationship back as she hates who i am. My beautiful baby have had a meltdown because of fathers day and she did badly in her spelling- i feel like the worlds worst person- why did i do allthis stuff. I should of kept quite and just put up with the emotainal abuse after all i am getting from my mum now daily

Ibthink deep down husbamd doesnt really care if we get back together or not. He has it easy doesnt pay maintanve doesnt have bills. Speaks to daughter for couple of minutes a day job done. I am working full time trying to please work, daughter, mum and try to please ex husband so he comes back. I want him back to make daughter back. Mum says no way he is not coming here. Which caises even more trouble. To top all this my daughters school saying they cant meet her needs so she has to change schools. My poor little lady. I know i need to find strength from somewhere. Why didnt i get a normal hisband who worked and supported as normally.

Ibthink deep down husbamd doesnt really care if we get back together or not. He has it easy doesnt pay maintanve doesnt have bills. Speaks to daughter for couple of minutes a day job done. I am working full time trying to please work, daughter, mum and try to please ex husband so he comes back. I want him back to make daughter back. Mum says no way he is not coming here. Which caises even more trouble. To top all this my daughters school saying they cant meet her needs so she has to change schools. My poor little lady. I know i need to find strength from somewhere. Why didnt i get a normal hisband who worked and supported as normally.